<p>I was caught in a situation the other night that got me worried and I need advice from other parents that might have lived similar incident. My son txt me that he was going to be coming home late from a party (my son is 18) because he had some friends that were "not too hot" and he wanted to make sure they were ok before he came home. I asked him if the friends had been drinking ( and of course asked him if he was ok, even though he does not drink). He said that one of the kids was barely conscious and that they were calling the parents for them to pick him up. I ask him to call a doctor and he said that no one wanted to call a doctor because they were under aged and under our State law they would go to jail ( most of those kids got into great schools). When my son got home he said that he was really worried with the whole situation. He said that he found those friends a few blocks from a party he attended, were alcohol was distributed. He believes this was done with the knowledge of the parents of the girl throwing the party, because they even had a security guard at the house. My son left with a friend to get something to eat when he saw a car with those three kids parked close to the pizza parlor where he was going. They were all sick but this one kid was in very bad shape. Barely responsive. Now my son said that he was very scared that the kid was going to die right in front of him, on the other hand he was also afraid to call the 911 on them and they end up arrested and that jeopardize their future and that they all would blame him (specially because he was the only one clean(. The parents took one hour to arrive at the location. He told me that it was the longest hour of his life. He asked me if he did the right thing or if he should have called 911 right away ( they are all seniors of a small private school so they all know each other well). Thoughts?</p>
<p>That is a dilemma but I would advice him to call a doctor nonetheless. The last thing you want is that the kid end up in a alcohol induced coma and your son is just there doing nothing to help. It is really not his problem if they drank or not but it might be if he dies and he does not call for help.</p>
<p>I think his biggest problem was not being able to judge if the kid was in need of medical help or not. On top of that someone stop by telling them not to call the doctor because his son end up four days in jail for a similar event. He also thought that the parents were going to arrive soon but it took them almost an hour to reach their location.</p>
<p>I think that parents are responsible for their kids whereabouts. If he is a minor, they ( and the person throwing the party)should be responsible, not your son.</p>
<p>I would have called 911. Your son was not experienced enough to determine the medical condition of this kid. I always err on the side of caution, when someone’s life could be at stake. I am glad it turned out okay and his lack of action did not cause serious consequences. If it hadn’t, your son would have to live with that forever. In the future, he could go to a nearby business or adult and ask them to call 911. I do understand how hard that must have been for him.</p>
<p>Teaching moment for your son and his friends.
Ask him, if he was as wasted and unconscious as that guy, what would he expect his friends to do.
I don’t think he would want them to think about their college acceptances but to get him medical care by calling 911 before he stops breathing from alcohol overdose.
He would be considered a Good Samaritan and his story would exonerate him.
Err on the side of getting help.</p>
<p>He came to the same conclusion. However he explained to the mother that the kid was not well and she did not urge him to get help. They were also consequences to the owner of the house. The school they go to punishes anyone that throws a party with alcohol with expulsion. It was a scary moment for him to deal with and for me as a parent. Even if your kid does not drink he still can be evolved in serious problems.</p>
<p>how did it all turn out, wegotin? Was the kid ok? Did the school find out anyway?</p>
<p>The kid is ok. The school never found out. The thing that bothered me the most however is that the parents of the kid never called to thank my son for staying and helping out. He could have ignored the whole thing, or just left him there like some of the other kids suggested, but he stayed there (obviously the only right thing to do) until the mother arrived. He came home at 3:00 am ( he usually is home at 1:00 the latest) taking care of that kid and the parents just took it for granted.</p>
<p>Good for your kid.
I hope that he is not at risk with the school for not turning this kid and the party into them. That would really stink.</p>
<p>Hopefully this lesson he will remember once in college were the drinking culture is a lot stronger.</p>