<p>The title: what do your parents think about you dating? Do they have any say at all/do they offer their opinions/whatever?</p>
<p>I'm asking this cuz a very good friend of mine from my old school and another really good friend have just started going out. I love both of them to death, and am really very happy for them.</p>
<p>However, I just mentioned this to my mom (I've sort of been on unofficial dates/been hit on..she doesn't know about it) and she got quite angry.
It was literally "STAY AWAY FROM HER" "YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO ACCOMPLISH WHAT YOU WANT!".</p>
<p>Haha I have Indian friends & they can’t date until they graduate
My parents never spoke to me about dating/sex whatever because it was just a straight NO. About everything. I have to lie when I hang out with my guy friends. Even my gay male friend can’t hang out at my house JUST because he’s a guy. </p>
<p>I’ve had boyfriends before tho lol. All I’d do is say I’m going to (girl friend’s name) house & then go to my bf house or out on a date.</p>
<p>The majority of people in my school have parents who won’t let them date until they graduate from high school. I think it works quite well actually. Most people are far more interested in getting into a college of their choice than anything else.</p>
<p>In fact, at my school, if you start dating, you’ll get a lot of awkward stares.</p>
<p>I’m not allowed to date till i graduate. My mom glares at any boy that visits me at home, and my dad asks them many questions like the boys are planning 2 marry me or something. But then, i live in africa. It really sucks.</p>
<p>Yeah, it’s annoying…I think it’s just a cultural thing. I mean, I can see how relationships might be a distraction to studying/work, but I also know some people who do better in school after starting a relationship…whatever, hopefully I only have 1.5 ish more years here and then I can do whatever I like in college. </p>
<p>@Fleetwood, omg same here! I never got ‘the talk’ either. Maybe my parents thought that I didn’t know what sex was? Even now, when I laugh at sex jokes on SNL or a comedy show they kind of look startled.</p>
<p>@9jagurl96, same here. It’s either that or they know the guy really, really well. </p>
<p>whatever, hopefully I will be better at parenting if I ever become one.</p>
<p>I think my parents are ecstatic that my boyfriend lives across the country.
I don’t know what dating would look like if he lived closer. and they’d kill me if we had sex. but that’s for many reasons.</p>
<p>It’s never been an issue with my family since I’ve never expressed an interest in dating in high school. I don’t know what their stance would be if I did- I’m pretty sure they’d be all right as long as they were introduced to the guy. I’m just waiting to get into college to seriously consider it though.</p>
<p>As an Indian, I share your pain. Academics first, nothing more nothing less according to the parents. Though, my mother has expressed that she doesn’t want to rob me of ALL of my fun, and said that in college I can date anyone I want to as long as I end up marrying an Indian woman.</p>
<p>Immigrant parents can be a drag, eh?</p>
<p>EDIT: I’ve also never had “the talk”, mostly for the same reasoning. My father just started assuming I knew what sex was.</p>
<p>Ahah… I live in Georgia and my girlfriend lives in Iowa. We were supposed to meet up this weekend, in Atlanta, but her great great aunt died, so that’s a no go… Anyway, as I was saying, I spend a lot of my time talking to her (video chatting, telephone, texting, whatever), and helping her with her homework, before I do all of mine… My parents despise the fact that I’m in a long-distance relationship, and so does most of my family… They all want me to either: A) Not date, B) Date someone who goes to my school, or C) Get all the action I can with as little committment as possible…=P (haha, y’all have to meet my uncle). If my girlfriend lived here, my step-mom would try to get buddy buddy with her and my girlfriend and I would both hate it. My dad would probably like her, and do his best to make me look bad because that’s what he does. One grandma would treat her like she’s 3, my grandpa would point out all her faults (read nuances, he’s very conservative), and my other grandma would be sane though a bit nosy. She’s smart, good-looking, and has charisma, so my family other than my grandfather would like her… But alas, she lives there, and I live here, so they all hate the fact I’m dating her like they’ve never hated anything before… -sigh- </p>
<p>By the way, I’ve never had “the talk” as at a certain point, my dad could tell I knew what sex is… Mmm, never had to have a talk about being careful, he knows I’m not stupid.</p>
<p>LOL @ your mom’s reaction to the dating. I’m in the same Indian parent boat and it’s obvs academics first under all circumstances. Dating in high school? Based on parental remarks they could possibly accept it, but they would be really really suspicious about it’s impact on my academics. If academics still good, they’d be fine. Actually, I’m re-thinking it. My parents found out once about two friends who were dating and told me never to associate with either of them again…but it was just feeling in the moment though.</p>
<p>My mom’s Asian and Muslim but really chill about dating, probably because she dated and married a white guy (and then had my brother and I). My mother would disown me if I was having sex or doing anything past kissing soooooooo yeah</p>
<p>I feel sorry for all the people with super uptight parents.</p>
<p>They never used to care, but now that I’m a senior they keep telling me to stay away from relationships and only have like “flings” and go on dates - pretty much stick to hookups and don’t get attached. It’s really odd :p</p>
<p>Don’t date in highschool. Trust me it’s pointless. No one gets anything out of it but broken dreams and other stuff. You have the rest of your life to date</p>
<p>My parents honestly don’t care… I’ve had a few boyfriends and they treat them the same as they treat my other friends. </p>
<p>With regards to sex, they take a practical approach. They never told me about sex. They just assumed I’d know from school (obviously I do). But we did talk about birth control. Honestly, they just said make sure you’re safe. I mean studies have shown that educating kids about birth control is the best way to prevent pregnancy, rather than preaching abstinence when for many people it’s not practical. So yeah that’s them for you. </p>
<p>I mean, yeah if my grades went down they’d make me cut back on hanging out with people but I don’t think they’d say like no boyfriend or anything, they’d just say I can’t go out with anyone as much in general.</p>
<p>That said, junior year is death and I barely have time to see friends, let alone date.</p>
<p>And @Bryanwalt I dont think there’s no reason to date. I mean honestly, every relationship doesn’t have to have the goal of marriage. Sometimes people just like each other and enjoy each others company… I don’t see a reason to stifle that. I mean I dont think people should be obsessed with finding a bf/gf but if it happens, it happens</p>