<p>I think you parents have been very kind and gracious to create this separate thread. One of the things the millennial generation has struggled with is respect for their elders (in my humble opinion) When these kids graduate and go into the workforce that kind of disrespect won’t fly.<br>
Soconfusedmom@ Regarding the business schools, I work in the biotech industry in san Diego and my company (very large biotech) gets most of its business majors from SDSU. My company prefers these kids over all other colleges in so cal, even USC. The SDSU kids are better prepared. I can’t speak to cal poly on that front however. Good luck to all of you and your kids!</p>
<p>soconfusedmom my son is a sophomore in bus at CalPoly. Although was accepted at sdsu we never seriously considered it as only Berkeley and SLO undergrad bus programs were only publics with decent ratings and here in Norcal business regard highly. He would have went out of state instead of to SDSU. But if your son plans to work in SanDiego after school sure it would be fine. Bus school at Poly is very good with solid recruiting base of companies especially Silicon Valley. Since my son enrolled bus school dean was hired away and not sure if they have replaced him with as solid a leader, something to look into. Go to OpenHouse in April to get perspective on SLO Business School lots of access to professors and students at the event.</p>
<p>We took off for the weekend, took our girl to Tahoe for a fun weekend of snow boarding and getting away from the college waiting game. Did not look at portal for 2 days, back now, looked …and still no change. URGH!! We were really hoping for news. </p>
<p>I think it was a good idea to start a Parents area. Your kid may be much different than most, but some consider their parents to be the “rock”, and source of support, grace under pressure, and someone they don’t want to disappoint. To hear you stress, worry and compare child to child stats, hear about dreams busted, or to fret about what they may have to settle with, may help you ease your stress as a parent, but I don’t have to be a kid to realize I would seriously get on my nerves if I was a hs senior soon to be hitting a significant milestone in their lives–becoming an adult like you. I’ve seen some wonderful parent comments that have been very uplifting, supportive, and may very well be the surrogate, parental voice a kid needs at such a stressful time, because they may not have such a supportive figure at home. Your thread is open too, I’m sure students have read your comments of being ‘put off’ and ‘not genuine’ in your response to the very honest student. The internet is a huge community and we all must understand what impact our roles have on others. ps. Please give the college a rest and stop calling the college for your student. It is a state college, subsidized by our tax dollars and future tuition payments, but it will only increase costs to not only service 19K students but their parents too.</p>
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<p>@joyful1, first thanks for toning down your original response. Weird you would thank me and then remove those thanks, but that is exactly what I was hoping to convey with my response. Maybe you misunderstood my comment. I think it is good to try and keep your comments separate from the students for the reasons I shared. Although, some parents do an outstanding job giving support to the students, I was just trying to give the parents that were irate about the students request, some insight into why. As someone mentioned, it isn’t the first time a student was dissatisfied with so much parental presence. College Confidential identified the need for Parents to organize their comments in a separate forum, and then a Cafe, as well. </p>
<p>oh, now I see you removed your post entirely…relax…breath…you will get through this. Best to your family.</p>
<p>@joyful1, what a great idea to get away for the weekend. I’m sure it eased the nerves of your daughter, and you! I really want to take my daughter on a road trip to Chico so she can fall in love with the campus/town all over again. It’s time to refocus and start making plans that don’t involve Cal Poly. I really hope final decisions come out today so we can move on (and move on from these forums!).</p>
<p>Signed ~ An overinvolved, super supportive, MOM! :-)</p>
<p>Here is some helpful reading information to help you see yourself through the letting go period:
<a href=“http://www.parent.calpoly.edu/content/reading_parent”>http://www.parent.calpoly.edu/content/reading_parent</a></p>
<p>I see so many students come from “overinvolved, super supportive” families, have the hardest time seeing their children through this period of childhood to adult development. It surprises these families the most, when the stress ultimately surfaces in the saddest ways, once they are on their own.</p>
<p>@heyitsmee, Thanks for the additional information. It is a very hard process for the kids, and I’m happy to say I have two older children that are growing and learning everyday (a 20 year old at Humboldt State and a 22 year old serving our country in the US Army). Ironically, it is my youngest (the Cal Poly applicant) that is the most responsible! She definitely doesn’t need me in this college application process, and perhaps that is why I am so involved.</p>
<p>@CDSMOM, you really hit on what minicooper3 was trying to express. Like your daughter, most don’t really need parents in the college application process. Parents want to be needed. It is all very normal. Setting up an area for parents, diffused the issue gracefully.(but remember you did invite kids in your welcome, lol). So in this forum, I felt I needed to express support for the individuals who are ultimately using this site to bond with other students. There are many ways to chat with parents. Many kids have abandoned Facebook because there are too many parents on it, lo. There are so many similar very involved parents at Cal Poly, they have three pages: Private Cal Poly Parents Group, Cal Poly SLO Parent Community, and Cal Poly Parents. Thanks for considering my point of view.</p>
<p>Any RPTA news, @joyful1? I can’t believe my daughter is still showing undetermined. This really is a long, drawn out acceptance process. I’m glad we did finally hear from SDSU, and my daughter was better with the denial once she heard her boyfriend was also denied admission. Go figure! 
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<p>@heyitsmee I am and will continue to be a parent who supports the students. I was not ever irate over anything on this forum, just felt sad to not see the end results of all the kids in that community. I am just trying to be connected to other parents who are traveling the same path as I am right now. </p>
<p>Has anyone heard of any BME students getting notice yet?</p>
<p>I haven’t heard anything about BME, @Sudsmom. Crossing fingers for good news!</p>
<p>heyitsmee, I’'m afraid you misunderstand the purpose of the site and the College Confidential mission. The last thing CC’s creators and contributors would want is for parents, and other individuals or organizations with a stake in the college admissions process to feel unwelcome on the site. </p>
<p>Per the founders:
<a href=“http://www.collegeconfidential.com/about.htm”>http://www.collegeconfidential.com/about.htm</a></p>
<p>“By the time I finished helping my second child with the college applications process, I felt I had learned quite a bit. Unfortunately, at that point I was out of kids…”
-A Parent</p>
<p>“If only I knew then what I know now…” Who hasn’t uttered that lament at one time or another? It is certainly applicable to college search, college admissions, and financial aid. The college process is often complex and confusing. Many people go through the process only once, but few go through it more than several times, meaning that there is little chance to accumulate knowledge that will be applicable in a later college application process.</p>
<p>College Confidential was founded to demystify many aspects of the college admissions process, and to help even first-timer students and parents understand the process like old pros. At College Confidential, we have assembled an editorial team to bring our visitors the best college admissions content on the Web. These contributors include Dave Berry, an experienced independent college admissions counselor; Sally Rubenstone, a former Smith College admissions counselor, admissions writer, and teacher; and, for “from the trenches” perspective, Roger Dooley, a parent who has participated in his own children’s admissions process and is active in high school academics. Dave coauthored America’s Elite Colleges: The Smart Buyer’s Guide to the Ivy League and Other Top Schools, published by Random House-Princeton Review in August 2001. Sally is the coauthor of The Panicked Parents Guide to College Admissions; The Transfer Student’s Guide to Changing Colleges; and The International Student’s Guide to Going to College in America.</p>
<p>I stand corrected…the last thing this site would want is a reduction in page views/ad revenue. </p>
<p>Just as a way to REDIRECT this thread, maybe some of the parents can post about what schools your child applied to? Where have they received admission and/or denials?? What is their #1 pick? I’d love to show some support to your struggles!</p>
<p>I’ll start by saying that Cal Poly is a reach for my daughter. She doesn’t have 4.0 stats, or over the top SAT scores… However, she applied to a major which falls under the College of Agriculture. In high school, my daughter applied and was accepted to the Ag/Science Academy (a high achieving program within the high school). All of her core classes were in taken within the Academy, most of them designated as Advanced. She was also super involved in school: Leadership, Cheerleading, Ag/Science Club, Gymnastics, etc.</p>
<p>Sadly, her As and Bs are not the type of grades to get her into CP. But we have been hoping! Especially with all the Ag classes she had to take. I just don’t know if they even look at that. So confusing!</p>
<p>My D got into Purdue. She also applied to UCDavis, UCSB, UCSD and some schools back east. She keeps going back and forth about where she really hopes to go. She has great grades n scores but we are worried the BME major is highly impacted all around. Purdue is her safety school. </p>
<p>I’m trying hard not to talk about any of this with her bc I only stress her out! Thank goodness for this parents thread! You have all helped me distress a little. It so helps to see others going through the same things!!</p>