Parents, what are your experiences with kids going to out of state STATE schools?

<p>What are your experiences with this? (i.e New York City kid attending U of Colorado at Boulder). Did your children feel excluded? Were they treated differently than other in-staters?</p>

<p>My daughter is from Cal and she goes to Michigan. Not an issue.
Her boyfriend from Cal goes to Colorado. Not an issue.</p>

<p>Wow Dstark, did that relationship last through freshman year? I'm wondering wht will happen with my son and girlfried of 2 years.</p>

<p>In my experience OOS seem to glom together and not have much to do with instaters. That's in undergrad.</p>

<p>zagat, I have no idea. Some things... you just have to stay out of the way. :)</p>

<p>No problems; from small city midwest, one attended an urban Ivy (lots of geographic diversity) and the other a big public in the southeast with a large in-state population.</p>

<p>Just about every campus has lots of people from out of state, so there's little to worry about. The only problem I could see is going to a regional branch of a state university or a locally-oriented school with a large commuter or weekend commuter population - that might be tougher for an out-of-state student.</p>

<p>Check the percentage of out of state kids at Boulder. Boulder is so - I don't know how to describe it, but cosmopolitan comes to mind - that being from out of state won't be unusual nor will it be detrimental. It's nice to make friends with kids in-state (occasional invitations home) but there's so much going on that it won't matter. Many kids who live in Colorado can't easily go home for weekends (too far away) so it's not going to be a commuter school. I've heard that was a problem with U. of Rhode Island - state is so small everyone can go home for the weekend. </p>

<p>I attended OOS public (long, long ago) and made friends with residents and non-residents. It really isn't much of an issue - friendships naturally develop based on shared interests/rooming situations, etc. If your student visited beforehand, (s)he should have a good sense of what to expect.</p>

<p>I came to the UC system from Texas, as did my younger brother. There was never any issue. My dorm-mates were quite enamored of me at first -- I seemed kind of exotic -- but lets just say the novelty wore off very quickly.</p>

<p>My D is OOS at U of Arizona Honors College. I can tell you that most students in college go to meet new people. She has many friends from in state and out. I fact I think it helped her make new friends at college, everyone wants to learn about life outside their own bubble. </p>

<p>Most of these kids don't want to be the people who never seem to leave HS and the have the same group of friends that the had in HS. They all know people like this and they tend to be commuter students. </p>

<p>She is getting ready to apply to law school and many of her friends from AZ want her to stay in the state and here friends from HS want her to come back home. She is truely torn.</p>

<p>Boulder is very popular with kids from my part of California. As are the Arizona schools.</p>

<p>I think a lot depends on the % of OOS. LIke most/all of the SUNY's have 95% or more in-staters, so that might affect the situation more than at UMich</p>

<p>S (from Greater Boston) attended UCLA and enjoyed his experience a lot. It took some getting used to the California style of life and folks asking him why he would go to Cali when MA has lots of good schools, but now he's an Angeleno.</p>

<p>D #1 attends UMD College Park, we live in CA. She loves it. She started out at UCBerkeley and was very unhappy. Being OOS and in a whole new environment has been great for her. She has met many new people both from MD and OOS, even a girl from India. The girl who she will room with this year is from Annapolis and her family allowed my D to store her things in their basement. Since my D will be flying back on her own in a few weeks they are even picking her up and helping the kids get moved into their dorm. I'm very thankful for my D having a local family to help her. 3000 miles away seems so far to me.</p>

<p>One of kids is OOS (Hawaii to Oregon) and he loves it there, no problems meeting people.</p>

<p>My S went to UCLA from Virginia, and he had a great freshman year. He'd call us from the beach just to rub it in that we had winter, and he didn't. He had absolutely no trouble meeting people, but he never did before. We do have some relatives in Southern California, but he never needed their help for anything.</p>

<p>We are from the western suburbs of Philadelphia, and my son just completed his freshman year at USC. Most of his friends there are from CA, but he met a number of other kids from all over the country. He is definitely not treated any differently for being out of state, except some of his friends had fun teaching a neophyte how to surf, etc. Similar to Flatbush Faithful, my son had a great year.</p>

<p>No problem in going from the DC area to USC for my son. He has made friends from all over. He's girlfriend is from Arizona. I made the mistake of having him come to Madison over Thanksgiving in 2004. He about froze to death. I don't think I'll get him here again, at least during the winter. We're going to spend Thanksgiving this year in Palm Desert CA to make up for last year. He also likes to call me from the beach or alternatively tell me that he's wearing shorts when it's very cold here.</p>

<p>Isn't USC private?</p>

<p>"Isn't USC private?"</p>

<p>Yes.</p>

<p>I attended Ohio State having been raised in upstate NY. I had not a single problem with any of the born and bred Buckeyes. The only problem I had was from a few Long Island coeds who made fun of my rural upstate upbringing. It was good natured mocking with a NYC edge.</p>

<p>In addition, I do not recall any uncomfortable feeling of being a fifth wheel amongs old hs friends. Most the friends I made seemed to prefer leaving leaving hs behind and forging new relationships at university.</p>