People on CC are really insensitive

Pre-College Topics High School Life
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<p>So lately there's been several threads with people posting serious issues that they need help with, and a lot of the responses have been..well, downright mean, unhelpful and completely off base. </p>

<p>For example, recently someone posted about how one of her "friends" stole her common app essay and used it for herself. All the responses were generally along the lines of "well if you're essay was more unique then this might not have happened." First off, I can't even begin to comment on how messed up that is. I mean, since the adcoms don't really know you, anyone can pretend your unique experiences are their own. </p>

<p>In another thread, someone's talking about how a mean guidance counselor is screwing over his chances at a top college but all the replies are like "why do you even want to go to a top college anyway?" (hypocrites) or "wow, you're worrying about this. maybe your guidance counselor is right about you."</p>

<p>I mean wow. just wow. Thoughts on this? CC's lack of empathy is truly abnormal.</p>

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<p>It may be CC, but it’s still the internet. what do you expect?</p>

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<p>^ That’s exactly what I was gonna post, but it seemed insensitive. </p>

<p>I know what ya mean, Hippo, but just ignore people who say absolutely ignorant and inconsiderate things – you know they’re wrong. Just laugh at 'em. (:</p>

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<p>your mom is insensitive.</p>

<p>just kidding.</p>

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<p>honesty is generally the best advice. If someone did something to screw themselves over and they are asking for suggestions of how to reverse it, the honest fact may be that they cannot. Better for them to understand that and understand what they did wrong than for anyone to empathize with them. </p>

<p>In the stolen essay case, why the hell would a friend have the persons essay? Essays should be trusted among GCs, teachers, and maybe close friends and maybe legit non 09ers, non parents of 09ers, with a good posting history, on CC. It takes a complete lack of skills to get your essay stolen and the person should be told that, so they develop a basic understanding of what to do with personal work. </p>

<p>Most of the best advice is brutal. If I’m asking for chances, I would love for someone to say NO WAY and list reasons, so that I can think about their point of view and factor their OPINION into my judgment. And honestly, if you think the lack of empathy in CC or even HS is astounding, have fun outside of the bubble. </p>

<p>Not everyone cares about helping other people - in fact, the nature of the college application system encourages normal students to think about themselves before others. Most people on CC are here because of the social aspect or because THEY want to find out how to improve their SAT scores, or they want advice. Why are you acting like its a surprise that there is a lack of empathy on a online forum?</p>

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<p>we’re insensitive because we care.</p>

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<p>Ahahahaha, not even! CC is perfectly polite when compared to places elsewhere on the internets.</p>

<p>Really though, CC’s gentility is what’s actually abnormal…</p>

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<p>^You’re missing the point Nick017. </p>

<p>In one thread, everyone was bashing the OP because he was worried he couldn’t get into a “top 30” college anymore, despite the fact that most of those posters would be equally freaked out if they themselves saw their college dreams ripped out from under their feet. The OP isn’t a bad person in this case for worrying about this, but the entire thread turned into a bashing of his moral character because of it. It was ludicrous.</p>

<p>Harsh advice is good, and I’m all for it. What I meant for this thread to be was to address the (often) hypocritical and downright nonconstructive posts that are posted. </p>

<p>Harsh advice for the OP of the thread where the friend stole her essay would have been “that’s life, now you have to deal with the consequences.” That’s ok. The stuff that ****es me off is when people say “well, your essay probably wasn’t unique and it’s your fault for writing a crappy essay to begin with.”<—That’s the kind of insensitive nonsense that I’m talking about.</p>

<p>It may be a fine line, but it’s there.</p>

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<p>Insensitive…on these forums? Like, honestly, these forums are probably one of the most polite, reserved, formal, and affable communities (no joke). CC is like, angelic compared to any other website/forum I go on. I mean, there may be some insensitivity, but I really don’t think that it’s that much…it isn’t a big deal as you assume it is.</p>

<p>I don’t know about those specific examples so I can’t comment, but a lot of them ask bs questions that lack common sense like “Zomg, I dont have an A in class X olololol”.</p>

<p>Your two cases, by the way, aren’t a big deal - I don’t think that it’s a question that cannot be answered with a little thought for themselves.</p>

<p>as for this:

I really don’t think that’s that bad of a comment; um, maybe it’s the truth, and if it isn’t, it’s a simple opinionated comment. This is that offensive and insensitive in your eyes? </p>

<p>Wow, some here are truly missing something regarding the world and the internet; modern life…</p>

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<p>it a dog eat dog world out there… but be nice every1 be a good supportive person</p>

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<p>Yeah, well, it’d be ideal to be nice/honest all the time, but unfortunately that can’t happen…and this much is actually fairly nice/polite anyways.</p>

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<p>Yeah, if you think CC is bad…wow. Look at any another forum-insults abound. I think CC has a good mix of humor. I do agree that, perhaps, that particular thread was a bit insensitive, but there’s really nothing people on the internet can do for you then!</p>

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<p>Yup, we are.</p>