I’m a freshman and I live in a single dorm. My dorm is co-ed and I’m the only girl on my side of the floor, and on top of that I have no roommate. I have a couple friends on the other side of the floor, and quite a few in the dorms near mine so I’m not usually in my room or hanging out on my floor. I just realized how this must be super weird to people when I heard the guys next door to me talking about me. Basically I was in the elevator with one and it was a silent ride because it was late but I get to my room and before my door closes I hear him making fun of me to his roommate about how I didn’t talk and stuff. Is it really that weird not to make friends with people surrounding me especially considering the circumstances? Just posting because I’m currently scared to leave my room to shower right now because their door is open and I feel self conscious hahaha. I feel paranoid like all the guys on my floor talk about me since I usually don’t really converse with them or see them at all.
Don’t make mountains out of molehills. Try saying hi when you cross paths. Make some small talk in the elevator, stop to chat a little.
You are the only girl on your side of the floor? That’s odd but here’s what I’d do. The next time I saw those guys I’d say, “Hey…so I hear you want to meet me. I’m “Name”…(stick out your hand to shake his) and you are?” Joke and talk with him and his roommate. Rib them a little. Start talking to the guys on your floor. Ask them to help you with something sometime. Get to know them. They could end up being decent friends.
Who on earth places ONE girl all by herself in a wing full of boys??
I don’t see a problem. Introduce yourself to the guys as you meet them. They are stupid, but if you don’t want them talking about you, fix the situation by talking. Knock on the door and say, “Hi guys, I’m Jane. I have some cookies here.” Problem solved.
I typically don’t engage in much conversation in a hotel elevator with fellow guests getting off on the same floor, but even then I might nod and say hello. But these are your yearlong dorm mates, for pete’s sake. Why wouldn’t you say how ya doing?
It doesn’t sound like he was talking either right?? So I don’t really get how that could be about you. Sounds like he was just looking for something to talk about and judging you would make for nice small talk. I wouldn’t be baking cookies for this person, but that’s just me. If you just say “hi how’s it goin” when you cross paths, that prolly won’t hurt.
Also congrats on making some friends so early on. That’s more than most freshmen can say for themselves.
It’s early and you might be able to change rooms. Get to know your R/A also. Try to meet the people on the floor but maybe with some friends in your dorm in attendance so it’s not just on you. Guys tend to be immature at this stage in life. In a joking way let them know the walls are really thin and you can hear people from other rooms like theirs. That might stop that. You shouldn’t feel scared to shower. If you do meet the guys and they are decent let them know that it’s weird or strange feeling being the only girl on the wing and you might need their help on feeling more welcomed. This puts them on notice. Plus they might not realize it either. They might actually introduce you to more people on the floor.
Trust your gut. Talk to your RA about it.
Agree with @bjkmom post #3. Also, he didn’t talk to you while in the elevator. Seems more like a case of immaturity than of being intentionally rude.
Maybe he finds you attractive & was afraid to initiate a conversation.
Since you’re the only woman around, seems like the gentlemanly thing to do would be to be friendly to YOU. Just like if there was one man on a hall full of women, I would expect the women to make an effort. But since that’s clearly not happening, just start saying hi when you see them.
Say “Good morning”. Say it to everyone on your way to breakfast. Make a game of it — see if you can say it to 5-10 people each day.
I agree that it is weird that they placed you on a wing by yourself with the guys.