<p>I'm saving up my money so I can maybe get some cosmetic surgery in the next couple years. Not a lot, just one or two procedures. </p>
<p>I mentioned it in passing to my father, and he was so horrified and disgusted. We got into this whole debate of whether or not it's really shallow to get plastic surgery if you're not mutilated from an accident or anything. He says it IS shallow, and a sad statement of our increasingly hedonistic, narcissistic behaviors here in the US. I think that since it's available, there should be no shame in wanting to get a few nips and tucks here and there. It's not that I think I'm ugly, I actually like the way I look. But there's always room to enhance yourself, right? </p>
<p>Honestly, I don’t think it’s really that big of a deal. Maybe it’s unnecessary, but it’s your prerogative. Everyone has something they don’t like about themselves.</p>
<p>It’s not necessarily horribly shallow. Some people have personally significant reasons for undergoing plastic surgery, so actually, it’d be the people accusing them of being “horribly shallow” who are horribly shallow…</p>
<p>Still, I don’t think you can justify plastic surgery without a lot of consideration and deep thought. Surgery carries risks; unnecessary surgery carries unnecessary risks. Now you have to really ask yourself, do the benefits (as you perceive them) outweigh the risks?</p>
<p>Most importantly, though, I think the most significant question is what purpose this surgery serves for you. If you already accept/appreciate your body and you want this surgery to further enhance your self-appearance, then that’s constructive and positive. However, be careful of other (negative) influences - such as pressure to have a certain appearance at cost to your physical and emotional well-being. Good intention is most important.</p>
<p>Before I start: it is your body and in the end, I think what matters is that you have made your own choices and you try to live the best you can.
Having been in an environment where a lot of my peers and even the people who I am supposed to look up to wish to have cosmetics surgery, I personally have grown to dislike it unless it is medical.
This Heidi Klum quote I came across in the newspaper a while ago…
I thought this was pretty relevant?
What cosmetics surgery is supposed to achieve, in my opinion, is the person feeling more confident and happy about him/herself. This is why even when the outcome is supposedly successful (the surgery leaves a person looking how they wanted to look), it is actually unsuccessful some of the time, as the person regrets/feels ashamed of having had surgery. I think that this means what needs to change in a person is not the part(s) of the body they want to change, but for them to change psychologically by coming to like it and be proud of it. This psychological change would be difficult if you were someone who was say, disfigured, and were not easily accepted into society and had everyone always stare at you.
The surgery, even if it is successful, needs to leave you feeling happy with yourself. I personally don’t think you should have it, but if you do, I hope you feel content with yourself afterwards.
I won’t fight and say that plastic surgery is for shallow people, because I like nice clothes and that’s also exterior so am I shallow?</p>
<p>May I ask how old you are? I certainly respect your freedom to choose what you do to your body, but if you are indeed a teenager, I can sympathize with your father. No father wants to hear his daughter say she wants “chest enhancements”, especially not at such a young age.</p>
<p>And I don’t want to jump to any conclusion about your motivations, but I’ll warn you now that that sort of cosmetic surgery tends to draw the wrong sort of attention from men.</p>
<p>^^ Are you a guy? Did you just say that it would draw the wrong sort of attention from men? I’m sore if OP is looking into it, that’s the kind of attention she’s looking for. And there’s nothing wrong with it.</p>
<p>What size are you and what size do you want to be? Smh… who are you trying to gain attention from that you can’t get with the size you’re at? I’m an A cup but I’m completely sexy and I’m well aware.</p>
<p>I personally think that plastic surgery is trashy unless you really need it for like a surgery or injury, certain exceptions. I mean it depends what size you are going from and to. It seems young to be doing it now though…</p>
<p>That may be what she’s looking for now, but I urge her to reconsider. We tend not to have the best judgment when we’re this young, especially in the arena of sexuality. The last thing she wants is to regret this decision thirty years from now.</p>
<p>Wow, thanks for being so nice about my query, guys =)</p>
<p>@firelight: That was the most eloquently written advice I’ve ever seen on this website. Thanks.</p>
<p>@PioneerJones: I’m 17 at the moment, but I wouldn’t get the surgery until I save up enough which probably won’t be for about two, maybe three, years. But I don’t see how that’s an issue? Why wait to do something like that once you’ve passed your prime?</p>
<p>@futurexecutive: Haha, well my chest isn’t that small at the moment. But in any case, I’m not really doing this to attract guys because that’s not an issue for me. I just want to make what’s good fantastic.</p>
<p>@ipoppills: How is cosmetic surgery ugly-increasing?</p>
<p>I don’t really know how to explain it other than the fact that I would like a girl who is happy with the way she looks, confident and not self-conscious, and not that superficial (my personal opinion). I guess she would look better in a physical sense after the surgery, but because she felt she needed it, I would look down upon her.</p>
<p>This is my own personal opinion, which may or may not be shared by others. But to me, someones personality makes them beautiful and their physical attractiveness is just a side on.</p>