<p>saintfan…you were thinking my thought exactly! The weed was weighed? Obviously not just a gift from a friend, more like a purchase from a dealer.</p>
<p>But what I also have been thinking about…OP, what do your parents have to say about this? And what is their advice?</p>
<p>Wherever he got it - gift, purchase or unfortunate accidental turn of events - OP was able to accurately estimate the weight by volume connoting a familiarity with associated weights, measures and value. This reduces the possibility of one time “perfect storm” of teen misfortune and calls the veracity of his story into question. This, in turn, calls OP’s character into question, not necessarily based on the fact of possession but based on the spin cycle following.</p>
<p>Interesting, the way this thread has turned</p>
<p>I suspect it was weighed when his room was searched so they could determine if legal action against him was warranted and could justifiably avoid it because of the low weight. </p>
<p>Let’s give the kid a break. We’ve all done really dumb things. I know that I certainly have. No need to be cruel.</p>
<p>^^^^ Really! The OP screwed up and, hopefully, will learn about risks and consequences from this. I assure you this pales in comparison to much of what goes on in high school - both boarding and public or private day schools.</p>
<p>cortania, I think the tone shifted when I introduced the OP’s earlier post. It wasn’t hard to find. Then, once you start looking at how he tried to minimize his offense, it was more clear that he thinks himself a victim. He did ask for advice, didn’t he?</p>
<p>CRD, it’s true that I’ve done a few stupid things and I’m trying not to be cruel. But it does bug me that he tries to minimize his offense. I mean, he had something that was illegal in his room and it’s not a surprise that his room was searched. And while I’m not one who is ‘shocked’ that a kid smokes pot, I do think it’s important to remember it’s still against the law.</p>
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<p>His offense WAS minimal. He was suspended. That’s appropriate.</p>
<p>Minimal offense, appropriate punishment. This is really very minor.</p>
<p>Since you were stupid enough to get caught…</p>
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<p>I’ll repeat: no one here knows if the punishment is appropriate or not. The only details we know are coming from a 17 year old kid who may or may not be downplaying any fault of his here. Judging by a previous post and the posts in this thread, that may very well be the case, but again, we can’t know for sure. So let’s leave the judgement about what the punishment should be or if it is or isn’t sufficient up to the school and Duke.</p>
<p>The OP asked for advice/suggestions, which he was given. Whether or not he follows the advice is solely up to him. At this point, the time has come for him to take on the responsibility of assessing all of his options, deciding which is the best for him, and proceeding to carry it out.</p>
<p>Well, now that you’ve repeated, I suppose the matter has been settled.</p>
<p>There’s nothing to be settled. I was merely saying that, only knowing what details the OP released on the internet, none of us can really comment upon the appropriateness of the punishment. We can only give him suggestions and give him the benefit of the doubt in hoping that everything works out okay for him.</p>
<p>Since this is CC and we are here to help the kid, let’s just wish him the best. He has asked us for help. We have been blunt. I think he gets it. Let’s just be hopeful that one young man who has made at least one mistake can learn from it and not have it leave too big a scar on his life.</p>
<p>I think we all know the type of work it takes over four years to gain admission to Duke. the OP was not dealing. It does not appear to be enough to deal. The kid is in a world of hurt and he has reached out to us for help. You guys do what you want, but I am going to trust that he has read these posts - all of them - learned that he should accept responsibility, but not see himself as having thrown his life away - and wish him well.</p>
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Oh, no? “Has the applicant ever been responsible for a disciplinary violation at your school from 9th grade forward, whether related to academic misconduct, that resulted in the applicant’s probation, suspension, removal, dismissal, or expulsion from your institution?” This sentence taken directly from the Common App puts your father under no obligation?</p>
<p>^Yes, but the Common App was sent before the suspension. (Unless there’s some final report page that gets sent now?)</p>
<p>A sports kid was arrested for possession and had committed to a major university for that sport. The school chose not to report him. I don’t think you “have” to report anyone. Their argument however was that it happened off campus.</p>
<p>It’s unclear what cortana431 meant when he told us that his father told him he’s “under no obligation to report disciplinary infractions to colleges.” Does that mean he doesn’t report them on the Common App ever?</p>
<p>I think OP will be okay with the college if he doesn’t repeat the error.</p>
<p>That said, I wish the OP would take more responsibility. Sometimes it’s easier to be more open online, but even here he’s not admitting what he really did. I see this as a life lesson and a chance to learn responsibility. Messing up doesn’t make one a bad person. We all have errors in judgment - particularly as a teen/young adult, but on throughout our lives. So OP, please think about this. It’s better to admit you’re wrong than to deny what you did. You’ll move forward a better person because of the experience.</p>
<p>I guess I didn’t read the OP the way a lot of you did. He very plainly stated that he had the weed, that he got caught red handed, that he is dumb and made a big mistake, and that he got himself into this mess. I got the impression he mentioned how much it was and the fact that he didn’t use it to describe, in detail, exactly what his offense was so we would better be able to gauge how his university might react, not because he was trying to make us think he’s an angel. He said more than once that he is dumb and made a mistake. I don’t think he needs us to tell him that seven more times. His previous posts coupled with this one sound to me a lot like how most dumb kids sound when they get caught doing something stupid that they knew better than to do.</p>
<p>OP, I don’t condone what you did, but we were all dumb kids once and hopefully we learn from the experience and don’t become dumb adults. I hope that is true for you and that things work out in the end. Remember that even if your admission is rescinded, it may feel like the end of the world but it won’t be. This won’t ruin your life no matter how the university reacts.</p>
<p>Private Boarding School.
Early Admission to Duke.</p>
<p>Just have Dad write a check to the alumni fund, and all will be well. :)</p>