I am really surprised by the amount of energy people are putting in to who does what on Facebook. Why the need to internalize someone’s else’s stuff? If you don’t have the capacity to be happy for them or feel the need to dictate to them how they should utilize this social medium then unfriend them. Don’t we judge ourselves based on how we live our own lives, not on how we compare to others? There is some really petty stuff being posted in this thread.
@GreatKid Easier said than done…
I am really surprised by the amount of energy people are putting in to who does what on College Confidential. Why the need to internalize someone’s else’s stuff? If you don’t have the capacity to be happy for them or feel the need to dictate to them how they should utilize this discussion board then block them them. Don’t we judge ourselves based on how we live our own lives, not on how we compare to others? There is some really petty stuff being posted in this thread.
I recently read an article to reaffirm that “losing for about an hour” my 7-year year old son and his friend years ago as they trudged through the woods, made it home, contented themselves with popsicles, chattering about being “down the creek at Car Door Island” did not cause irreparable damage. I’m needy that way. “[We Live in an Age of Irrational Parenting (not about Facebook, but childhood safety)](http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2015/03/we-live-in-an-age-of-irrational-parenting.html).
My long intro paragraph to one really noteworthy paragraph:
“Back in the 1980s, the psychologist Jerome Kagan noticed that something was happening to American parents: Absent having any other conspicuous way to prove moral worth – by taking care of their own parents, say or heading up local civic organizations – we instead try to show our virtue through parenting. It’s become our new plumage, how we parent, peacockishly displayed on Facebook and in playgrounds and at birthday parties …”
With a few revisions (aka we find our self worth because we’re such great parents that our kids get into great schools) Facebook provides the perfect medium for ego-stroking and the peacockishly displayed plumage * for some *. Glad I’m not in the game anymore.
I am friends with several of all of my girl’s friends on FB. The youngest one, a current hs senior has posted nothing about college process with the exception of one picture in the area of a school we visited in the fall. There was no indication about why we were in that area.
And only one of her friends posted anything about a college acceptance so far…it was her first acceptance and she was proud.
Everything else is hush hush and no one wants to talk about it !
Big difference from a decade ago when my oldest was at this point
not results-related, but friends on Facebook of a new mother complain:
A new mom says she got an anonymous letter which accused her of sharing too much about her new baby on Facebook.
A group of friends were apparently sick of Jade Ruthven’s updates about her baby girl, Addy. The anonymous letter, which was shoved in Ruthven’s mailbox, says the group is over Ruthven’s “running commentary” and says her friends can’t wait until she goes back to work.
I hate when parents post, “Sally was accepted to xxxxxU!! All her hard work paid off!” As if others, who were rejected from the same U, haven’t also worked hard.