<p>Is it really that unfair? It’s not like she’d be showing up wasted three nights a week (a far more common occurrence in college). She’s <a href=“allegedly”>b</a>** with child, not infected with ebola.</p>
<p>OP, just a guess here, she’ll probably end up taking a medical leave of absence before she gets too batty. Papertown’s advice is pretty sound.</p>
<p>Honestly, this seems like one of the better “roommate problems” to have.</p>
<p>I lived with a pregnant girl twice. Worked out ok. One baby is in college and the other is applying now. Good schools too… Still living with same girl. I like her a lot.</p>
<p>If you don’t like the roommate, request a transfer if anything opens up. Sometimes it does. Just leave the possible pregnancy out of it. You don’t know for sure, and even if it is so, it isn’t grounds to request a transfer. That you don’t like rooming with her in general, is.</p>
<p>Is this the same roommate who a month ago was kicking you out of the room for some “alone time” with her visiting boyfriend? If so, she sounds kind of obnoxious, but I don’t think her pregnancy constitutes a legitimate reason to change rooms. Pregnancy is not contagious, obviously. But if you just can’t get along, that’s another issue.</p>
<p>Get a bowl of warm water. Put her hand in it. (Does this really work??). When something wet appears, take a pee stick and shove if in her pants.</p>
<p>Stupid reply to an equally stupid post.</p>
<p>"might be unfair in saying this, but I don’t think it’s fair to ask me to live with a pregnant student (if she decides to stay). There is a level at which women in pregnancy cannot control their moods and hormones. "</p>
<p>I think you should take this to the parents forum and see what the parents think about your hypothesis that “there is a level at which pg women cannot control their moods.” hint: many of the parents will have been pregnant themselves or married to someone who was pg. might be a better source on what pg women are like, than asking college students.</p>
<p>Your idea of what a pregnant woman is like is ridiculous. Pregnant women don’t turn into some other species. They are what they are. Some get sick, some don’t. Some have occasional moodiness, some don’t. Sounds like she’s moody to begin with, so that has nothing to do with pregnancy.</p>
<p>You don’t have to deal with anything. She, on the other hand, has some HUGE decisions to make. If she is pregnant, this is going to be a very tough time for her. She has three choices, and none of them are easy. You may not be her best friend, and maybe she’s annoying, dramatic, etc, but I see NO empathy for her at all in your post. Yeah, she messed up, etc, but that happens. Most of us are lucky enough to mess up in less spectacular ways. And as always, the guy probably gets away scot free. And he messed up just as much as she did. </p>
<p>Leave it alone. Your only role is to butt out and not make this time any harder for her than it already is. Bluntly, either she’ll have an abortion, or she’ll have the child and keep it, or have the child and give it up for adoption. If she has the baby, depending on her due date, she’ll be taking a leave of absence soon enough. If she has the abortion, none of your business. </p>
<p>This isn’t like a roomate with a drug problem. This is a problem with a literal due date that she will have to resolve one way or other. Let her do so.</p>
<p>@romani - I didn’t say that every woman does. But if the roommate did have it, most people would feel obligated as a human being to help. So it might not be her “job,” but she would likely end up having to do it anyway.</p>
<p>Perhaps saying it’s unfair was a bad choice of words. What I meant is that I can understand why the OP wouldn’t want to live with someone pregnant. I’m not saying this girl will be a raging hormonal nightmare, but it is something that takes getting used to and can be disruptive. It’s already tough leaving home and learning to live with others in such a small capacity, and I don’t think I’m wrong in saying that this will add to the challenge. However, it’s this girl’s right to remain at school and handle this is any way she sees fit. I wish them both luck, especially the girl who is possibly pregnant. It can’t be easy.</p>
<p>@keesh17 - <giggle></giggle></p>
<p>OP, I know this is not what you signed up for and I DO feel bad for you, and I would feel weird about it too, but try and make the best of the big picture – like others said, her life is gonna suck if this is true, and she’ll have hard decisions to make (and it could be worse – she could be getting wasted every night, throwing up in your bed, and sexiling you daily).</p>
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<p>The same could be true if a roommate broke his / her arm or leg and needed assistance, or developed diabetes or some other health issue. There’s no guarantee of anything, really.</p>