<p>Well you shouldn't wait for marriage to have sex. The idea is that you lose your virginity when you give yourself up, and ideally that should be the person who will take care of you for your whole life.</p>
<p>me.duh,</p>
<p>It's about as likely as getting HIV from a toilet seat...</p>
<p>But anyway, about premarital sex: It's a personal decision, but it comes with both responsibilities and social stigmas that should be weighed beforehand.</p>
<p>Of course it's not likely. But it's theoretically possible. Just like having several million mosquitos bite someone with HIV, then all come and bit you. ;)</p>
<p>I think this is a very complicated issue. For one, I think sex is not innately bad. A lot of times people assume, or get the impression, that sex is evil, dirty, or sinful. Sex can be very beautiful, but it can also be very ugly. When sex is used as an object, selfishly, or outside of a loving relationship, I think it is a bad thing. When it results in abortion, unwanted pregnancy, AIDS, or STDs, it becomes a bad thing. Just like alcohol or aspirin, it can be good or bad. Aspirin is good if you have a headache, but if you use it to overdose, that's a bad thing. Alcohol can be nice in moderation, but when one uses it to get drink or binge drink, this is very bad as well. So, I think sex should be done with precaution. I think waiting until marriage is a very good idea, but we're humans and we have tempations. I think high school is certainly too young to make this sort of a decision. I think it should be done with a loving person and after lots of discussion. I certainly do not think sex should be used as proof of love, but as an act of love.</p>
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<p>No, you just need one drop.</p>
<p>Also, to whoever asked "does oral sex count"? No one's keeping a virginity meter on you. It's all about you. Do I think oral sex "counts" as sex? Well, it's not the same as copulation, but it's clearly a sizeable amount of sexual activity. It doesn't have the possibility of pregnancy, but still carries all the other baggage - emotional, STDs, psychological, etc...</p>
<p>Ah, nothin' like a good ol' HIV transmission discussion to livin up a thread, good stuff. </p>
<p>bendrumfront makes some good points about moderation and whatnot.</p>
<p>I think when it comes down to it, just don't be an idiot and you'll be ok. Sex is a meaningful thing, so don't go around doing it with everyone. Not only is it slutty to do so, but there are so many risks involved that become amplified with the number of people and frequency. </p>
<p>--A girl at my school has had two abortions, results of two different guys, I think. Her boyfriend cheats on her like crazy but she keeps having sex with him and probably keeps getting STD's because of his numerous exploits. Everyone but her knows. That's an example of being an idiot. </p>
<p>--One of my close friends, on the other hand, has been with her boyfriend for almost a year. A few months in they started having sex, prior to which he was still a virgin. They do it quite often but she is on birth control, I think they sometimes use condoms anyway, they've both been tested for HIV, and he's very faithful and his friends are almost too honest. That is how to not be an idiot.</p>
<p>I'm not strictly for premarital sex, but I think it should really wait a while and be something you're ready for (not dumb, not drunk, not too young, and not meaningless).</p>
<p>Hmm, personally I don't see how you could marry someone without having sex with him/her unless it's an arranged marriage of some sorts. I know you all won't beleive this but bad sex lives do ruin marriages and as much as you can all rave that the EMOTIONAL link is all that should matter in a relationship, it cannot be denied that the physical connection between two loved ones is very important. </p>
<p>Just take Jessica Simpson and Nich Lachey for instance. Jessica was a virgin before marriage but not having premarital sex didn't save their marriage did it. Not to mention there's the rumor that Nick only married her since she was a virgin(something I would like to expand upn but won't since it's CC lol :D). I know that's not the best example since these are two celebrities we're talking about but still. I think you need to be physically and emotionally comfortable with your significant other before you marry.</p>
<p>QUESTION ONLY FOR GUYS: If you were married or were in a long-term relationship with a woman who didn't like to have sex or rarely felt like being physically intimate, would you be happing with the union lasting DESPITE the fact that the girl was very intelligent, fun to be around, responsible, kind, etc.??</p>
<p>I vote nay.</p>
<p>I second the nay.:)</p>
<p>i think that too much is placed on virginity. it's really not that big of a deal.</p>
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<p>No, I wouldn't be happy. I agree with everything else you said as well. It's a big part that you have to know before hand, IMO</p>
<p>i think virginity is a really big of a deal. One shoudln't give it in too young because the young don't always knwo what they are doing.</p>
<p>wait till you've found the right person, and MOST of the times that person is the one you marry.</p>
<p>Uh and if you do it too young you'll have more issues later. Not just mental issues either.</p>
<p>The "question only for guys" could apply to girls too. It's not like a girl would be completely happy in that type of relationship either. </p>
<p>Just saying.</p>
<p>If someone says their waiting, I have no problem with it. I wont judge them, think they cant get any, etc...whatever, its a personal choice</p>
<p>Myself, I think that the average human cant take in its full capacity until after the age of 16... Being too young causes some huge issues. </p>
<p>Just a personal oppinion</p>
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<p>I wouldn't mind, really. I mean, once a week or even once every two weeks is enough for me. Besides, after marriage, that is how people's sex lives become anyway.</p>
<p>I don't think losing your virginity is a huge deal.. as long as you don't become some crazed sexoholic while still in high school.</p>
<p>It may not be a huge deal but it's a big one. I don't remember if I already said this, but..you only lose your verginity once, so why not lose it to the right person (i.e husband/wife)</p>
<p>Well, I don't think that the "right person" necessarily has to be a husband or wife. I do agree that it should have some meaning though and shouldn't be lost to someone with whom you have no connection. </p>
<p>Has anyone heard of the research that says certain chemicals released during sex (mostly your first time) will give you the impression that you're "in love" with that person? I can't really remember the specifics of it, but it seemed pretty interesting.</p>
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I would ask the woman before I even entered such a contract how much she would want to have sex. If it is <2 times/week, I would say no.</p>