<p>Would it be immoral to temporarily marry someone just to have sex with them?</p>
<p>it would be a dumb waste of time.</p>
<p>Don't sign that prenup!</p>
<p>Premarital sex isn't my cup of tea but if it's yours, drink up and do it responsibly.</p>
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I wouldn't mind, really. I mean, once a week or even once every two weeks is enough for me. Besides, after marriage, that is how people's sex lives become anyway.
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<p>How do you know once every 2 weeks is enough for you if you're a virgin? You must have a very low sex drive. And also, that is not how people's sex lives have to become after marriage.</p>
<p>fitting that a Green Day fan would be so keen on this stuff lol</p>
<p>WHERE THEM WHERE THEM GANGSTAS AT
WHERE THEM DIMES AT</p>
<p>Just something I heard during a discussion at church</p>
<p>If you haven't had sex ever before (or any form of sexual stimulation) and neither had the other person, and no one cheated ever, how would you know what good sex was? In other words, if you've only had one type of candy for your entire life, how would you know there was something better tasting? You might hear an ad, or see it on tv, but never had it, for all you know, you could be having the best candy bar (or sex) in the world.
I've sort of thought about it for a while, and it makes a lot of sense to me.</p>
<p>as soon as you said church i was tempted to stop reading</p>
<p>She doesn't stop reading any of this because it's quite obvious that most of the posters aren't religiously affiliated. Why would you stop reading because she is?</p>
<p>in other words, her first line gave me the impression "oh no, here we go, she's gonna preach to us about saving it for marriage."</p>
<p>Is it that hard to understand?</p>
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Aww princess you wanna save it for your husband...that's so adorable and Jesus will love you for it!!!;)</p>
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fitting that a Green Day fan would be so keen on this stuff lol
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<p>See, I'm not really a green day fan. argh see this is why i wanted a new user name, people always have to associate me with it. i hardly like green day, my taste in music has changed a lot in a year. ARGH!</p>
<p>I suppose it's not hard to understand. What I don't understand about tolerance in society is that we have to tolerate those who aren't religious, but as soon as someone religious expresses an opinion, he (or she, in this case) gets picked on for it. It's quite sad.</p>
<p>honestly, .... look at how the religious person would react to this (which is what I thought the girl was going to do)....
we would be judged (which is a SIN SIN SIN SIN by the way) for our life choices. </p>
<p>-hey, I've been in the christian girl's shoes before...and wised up to the fact that all I did was judge people.</p>
<p>i'm completely open to the idea of premarital sex for other people. the one turnoff/deterrent for me is the idea that i could get pregnant or get an STD. i know that birth control is effective in preventing pregnancy, but if on the off-chance i got pregnant, i know that i would never abort (even though i am staunchly pro-choice). and, at this point in my life, i am nowhere near ready to have a child. and then the whole threat or an STD scares the s**t out of me... so, i'm gonna hold off until i'm sure that it's the right person (so prolly near or after marriage) besides, my mom always tells me to make sure that the man i have sex with is the same man i'd want to raise my child. and, although i deny that her advice is every appropriate or correct, i must say that i agree with her on that point...</p>
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If you haven't had sex ever before (or any form of sexual stimulation) and neither had the other person, and no one cheated ever, how would you know what good sex was? In other words, if you've only had one type of candy for your entire life, how would you know there was something better tasting? You might hear an ad, or see it on tv, but never had it, for all you know, you could be having the best candy bar (or sex) in the world.
I've sort of thought about it for a while, and it makes a lot of sense to me.
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<p>I actually agree with your conclusion (that monogamy is good), but I disagree with your analysis. I mean, what if your sex was reaaally crappy? How would you know if you have nothing to compare it to? To use the candy bar analogy, you could be eating sawdust wrapped in foil.</p>
<p>A couple things to point out that are perhaps byproducts of experience/age...</p>
<p>-- it's possible to know that your sex is crappy even if it's with the same person. After many many happy years with the same partner, we can both tell when we "click" and when we don't. I somewhat eschew the idea that you have to "shop around" to know what's best. I find that many people with that attitude (adults as well) don't bother to really sit down and get to know the partner they're with already. Sex with your first partner will never be a groundbreaking experience...unless you are patient and cultivate it.</p>
<p>-- It's perfectly normal and acceptable for someone to want to wait for a spouse. It's also perfectly normal and acceptable to not do so. It's somewhat dangerous and counterproductive to be promiscuous from an early age.</p>
<p>-- Sex is just as much a part of a healthy relationship as good communication is. I find it somewhat disturbing to see the whole "what if he/she only wants it once in a blue moon" scenario posted. I suspect it's partially due to inexperience and naivete, however.</p>
<p>-- Don't throw stones... one might come back and hit you.</p>
<p>That's all.</p>
<p>I'm afraid to ask, but...what do you people think of affairs? I don't want to sound like some trashy slut, but i'd let my girlfriend/wife cheat on me with my permission. I mean...I understand how you can just get sick of the same person forever.</p>
<p>You are a bit extreme there...that is why I would not want to get married, because then there is no binding contract that forbids me from experimentation.</p>
<p>i've heard (although i dont agree with it) that humans aren't monogomous by nature.</p>