<p>I'm not christian but I choose abstinence. I do flirt sometimes but it's just for fun.</p>
<p>This argument divides the disciplined elite from the promiscuous masses. I'm sounding arrogant, but I dont care; remember, this is an online forum, and I don't care what the mindless masses think or say about me.</p>
<p>To quote a great man:
"You gotta learn to hold your own, they get jealous when they see you with your mobile phone"</p>
<p>See, what I don't really get is WHY you WANT to have sex so early and before marriage. WHY? Because you like following fickle feelings? Because you want to forever imprint the atrocious memory of asinity into your mind? Because you want to show that you simply don't care about long-term effects but more so about immediate gratification? Why, why, why?
I truly don't understand. And, if you say, "because he/she is the right person," what makes you think that way? What's the sign? Oh, I get it--is this just another one of those fickle fragile feelings that lacks a stable foundation of justification?
Maybe the modern casuality of sex makes it so much less valuable--maybe that's a contributing factor to why people have sex so early and don't quite value it as much. Maybe that's why it's more frequent. Or maybe it's the stupid anorexia-advocating media again that's advocating sex and portraying it as something cool and exotic.
I surely don't know exactly why, but obviously sex is something less sacred now than it was before.
The people I've known who have had premarital sex (especially during high school) have all grown up to regret their decisions. They've remorsed over their impulsive and asinine actions.
I guess this is just the opposite point of view. Don't get me wrong here, I'm not trying to totally condemn everyone who decides to have sex before marriage. I'm simply stating my opinion, though it may sound harsh. Perhaps this harshness brings about an aura of hostility. But nonetheless, be reassured that I'm open to new ideas and opinions, for I understand that though opinions may not agree, no one really stands behind his/her opinion without reason. I'm curious to know that reason, that origin.</p>
<p>Sex is fun. What is wrong with practicing safe-sex before marriage? If you want to, have sex. If you don't, then don't. It's that simple.</p>
<p>If you look at this in biological terms, then there's nothing wrong with it. Organisms must reproduce to continue their species.
However, by ethical terms, many people consider it vulgar and wrong. It's also considered impulsive, promiscuous, and just plain uncommitted to the future spouse.
It seems many people desire to have a spouse that's "all to their own." Thus, premartial sex would mess with that. Many people desire for their spouses to be virgins.</p>
<p>I personally want to wait until marriage simply because I actually want to have sex with someone I truly love. That person is going to be the person I am going to marry. Even though I could love somebody else before marriage I just believe that I should wait until marriage because I respect my body and I don't want to give myself to just anybody.</p>
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See, what I don't really get is WHY you WANT to have sex so early and before marriage. WHY? Because you like following fickle feelings? Because you want to forever imprint the atrocious memory of asinity into your mind? Because you want to show that you simply don't care about long-term effects but more so about immediate gratification? Why, why, why?
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If my boyfriend wanted to have sex with me, I wouldn't have a problem with it because it'll make him happy. I like making him happy. It's as simple as that.</p>
<p>me.duh. i'm afraid that if it comes too fast and too easy, it's easy for him to leave you too. u can do that but u can't expect him to stick to u after ur first time. </p>
<p>if a guy date a girl for a month and then ask her to have sex, he prolly only see girls as sex objects. i'd break up. he has to proof more that he loves me.</p>
<p>and a guy would think that if a girl gives in so easily, she prolly has done it a dozen of times.</p>
<p>i dont see a point to just give it in right away. </p>
<p>another thing: some guys talk to their friends about their sexual experiences with certain (slutty) girls and even recommend the girls or talk in a badly downside way.</p>
<p>U DONT HAVE TO COME UP WITH A BUNCH OF CHRISTIAN REASONS TO NOT HAVE SEX BEFORE THE RIGHT TIME COMES.</p>
<p>CONCLUSION: GIRLS ARE AT LOST AND GUYS ARE AT ADVANTAGE. SEX IS BAD IF YOU'RE NOT REALLY READY.</p>
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<p>Um yeah it's precisely for the reason. those fickle feelings are quite pleasant.</p>
<p>Lol GDF I admire your honesty.</p>
<p>What's wrong with sexual feelings? Are they somehow evil? If you take reasonable precautions there's nothing wrong with sexual gratification.</p>
<p>In the Middle Ages, the usual age of marriage was 16, only a year after the average age of sexual maturity. Love was not a deciding factor. Cultural attitudes toward such things change on a decade by decade basis.</p>
<p>Your decision to cling to the idealism of NOW doesn't make you any more correct than anyone else, in the long run. People doing what they want regardless of what anyone else says is probably the healthiest decision... safety and legality taken into mind...</p>
<p>Well, I don't plan to get married until I'm 26-28 years old. I plan to get my master's degree by age 26. Should an adult with a master's degree and a job not be allowed to have sex? What's wrong with having premarital sex at that age?
I'm not against premarital sex. I'm against sex in high school. No one thinks 16-year-olds having sex are doing the right thing. But what about older people? There IS such a thing as emotionally and physically safe premarital sex. Remember that.</p>
<p>u can have sex as long as u have money to raise a kid.</p>
<p>Or if you are using contraception. (Condoms still have plenty of risk, I have seen friends get pregnant that way, it's not pretty, but hormonal contraception--meaning the pill, the shot, or the patch--lowers your risk to almost zero when used with a condom. Basically, you'd have to do something very wrong to get pregnant with a regular pill AND a condom.)</p>
<p>I've been wanting to post on this thread for a while but I've been holding myself back....especially becuase its on the High school life page, but here goes.</p>
<p>To give some background, I am in college, but I started having sex in high school. I DO NOT regret my decision at all. And yes, it was premarital sex :). I am still with the same boyfriend that I lost my virginity with and we have been together and monogomous ever since. I use birthcontrol and have no intention of making a child, but there is something to be said for the intense feelings in a relationship that sex alieviates. My boyfriend and I waited nearly a year before we had sex and talked about it a lot. Also, it was getting to the point, physically, that it really didn't make sense that we weren't having sex (if you know what I mean). It was kind of ridiculous. </p>
<p>Maybe we will break up some day and maybe we won't, but I don't see anything wrong with having had sex with him. To me, sex is a special thing that should be reserved for special people and my current boyfriend will always be special to me. </p>
<p>His parents would probably kill both of us if they knew, but I really don't see how sex has damaged us or our relationship in anyway.</p>
<p>it isn't premarital sex I have a problem with, but meaningless, promiscuous sex.</p>
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me.duh. i'm afraid that if it comes too fast and too easy, it's easy for him to leave you too. u can do that but u can't expect him to stick to u after ur first time.
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Thanks for the warning. But I know this guy. And I'm not just saying that because he's my boyfriend. But he's not exactly the type to try and have sex with me period. He's the abstinance type. So I'm not worried about it. :) Thanks for the thought though.</p>
<p>For future guys, I don't expect many guys to be able to stick with me, whether we have sex or not.</p>
<p>Paroxysm sums it up best. If it were up to me all these social liberals (mostly teenagers and young adults really) would be treated like the animals they are. Kids are too intractable these days to make proper decisions anymore. Oh well, at least I ain't one of 'em :)</p>
<p>I must admit though those fickle feelings could also be attained by oneself..lol...but i'd assume it's better when in the company of a companion...no?</p>
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Lol and science proves that teens are impulsive. Well, not all are, surely, but most. So I've gone pessimistic.
Teen romance hardly lasts a week, most of the time. Sure, sometimes it goes up to a few years, but once the two go to different colleges, it starts falling apart, generally.
Science says love is but a chemical reaction in the brain that dies off after a few years. At first, it's DESIRE to be together. It's true desire. The two are HAPPY to be together--they cherish it and anticipate every moment of it. After awhile, it's no longer a desire and joy, but rather an obligation, much like a chore. Long married couples have suggested this. They don't exactly stay together because they're totally in love w/each other as they were in the beginning, they stay together because they're kept together by obligation and initial vows.
But of course, whether or not you decide to have premartial sex depends on your own decisions. No one can stop you. No one can control your life in that aspect, really. People can express opinions and criticize you, but they can't really STOP it from happening if you will that it's going to happen.
What happens happens.</p>