<p>Hey fairy, at least you do know yourself and your position in life :)! </p>
<p>fairy_dreams
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Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: The road of life. Status: currently lost :] <<<—YIKES!!!</p>
<p>@Jacobtess, I apologize for my last comment, I rush to judgement sometimes.</p>
<p>Um, so? </p>
<p>I know my values and convictions. And that is all I need to know at this point. I’m having fun being lost in life, thank you very much.</p>
<p>Now my opinions on premarital sex,
I see absolutely nothing wrong with it between two consenting individuals. I don’t think its inevitable as many people are able to be chaste and funnel sexual energy into other pursuits.
I do think that teaching that sex should be saved for marriage though is doing more harm then good. Sex education in how to be safe is more effective than abstinence only in my opinion.</p>
<p>^^@fairy, I love you lost or found (that attempt to deride you was such a fail). On an unrelated note, the words “chocolate banana” appeared in the current issue of The New Yorker. I am officially baffled.</p>
<p>And I’m scared TrueLove may take my username the wrong way!</p>
<p>I have NEVER met a single person in my life that was against premarital sex. I mean, I’m in high school and my friends and I try to get as much poon as possible lol.</p>
<p>Look, people have sex all the time. That’s why all of you are here :).</p>
<p>Why is it necessary to have some arbitrary piece of paper tell you it’s OK to have sex (ie- marriage certificate)? Unless you believe in some spiritual union marriage or whatever. </p>
<p>I have had pre-marital sex. I have been with the guy since I was 15 and I don’t plan on getting married until I’m in my mid 20s. Why should I wait to do something completely natural with someone I love? </p>
<p>Just make sure you’re smart about it and do it with someone you care about, not someone random. Protect yourself.</p>
<p>^^^^^Yeah, agreed.</p>
<p>Teaching abstinence-only without teaching how to practice safe sex is one of the stupidest policies ever.</p>
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<p>fairy, you’re sounding so, well . . . fairy. What can you say, my dear :)?!</p>
<p>My opinion= anyone who engages in premarital sex is irrational.</p>
<p>Cold calculated answer, but really I find it impossible to disprove what I just said.</p>
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<p>I wonder if there are any in vitro babies on here.</p>
<p>Question: What if you wait until marriage, give yourself to that one person and then end up getting a divorce. Is it game on after that?</p>
<p>^^^@rhythmgaming: How so? How does this make them “irrational?”</p>
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<p>Sex is natural. Marriage is not. Natural things are more logical than unnatural things. </p>
<p>There, I disproved what you said.</p>
<p>Nobody wants to be a baby mama or daddy!!!</p>
<p>Hm… Returning to the original topic. </p>
<p>@ TrueLove: If the decision to have premarital sex was based on fundamentals and morals, then yes, it would be suggestive of one’s personal character. However, for many people, it is much more a question of economics and sentiments, of physical advantages and potential disadvantages. This decision certainly has no bearing on how those individuals will behave in another setting. </p>
<p>I am sure you will find many people who share many of your fundamental beliefs, and may even go above and beyond your expectations, with the only exception that they decide to partake in premarital sex. You cannot judge a person’s lifestyle and character based on that one aspect alone.</p>
<p>Thus far, I’ve presented my thoughts in a detached and unimpassioned manner. I suggest you do the same. Refrain from personal attacks, and don’t hide behind predictable dogma or accusations.</p>
<p>Ok, personally, I won’t have it. Not a girl I’ve met feels worth it to me. It’s up to the individual, but to say it’s morally wrong is to say that the church is the see all end all institution, which it is not. The marriage license is one of the only prominent unions between church and state, and we know how crazy that is. Btw, I know many people who are Christian and have had sexual intercourse before marriage, and they still live normal lives.</p>
<p>@romanigypsyeyes, my beliefs exactly. Marriage is an construct of the Church, which I believe causes a lot of problems already.</p>
<p>@rhythm, irrational? I can understand when people say immoral or even dangerous but irrational? Could you explain?</p>
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<p>First off, you have a baby mama and daddy. </p>
<p>Secondly, there are MANY ways to protect yourself against getting pregnant.</p>