<p>So I've been doing quite well in the acceptance department: I've been accepted by a great program at my state school, a school that's offering me a hefty scholarship and another school that I'm going to have to interview for a scholarship. But I've realized that I don't feel any attachment to any school. </p>
<p>I'm still waiting on six schools and I've realized that I don't feel like "This is my dream school" other than one LAC, which is out of my reach financially since it doesn't give merit scholarships. </p>
<p>I'm a little scared because whenever a college asks me, "Why ____" I realize that I can say tons of stuff that I might be genuinely enthusiastic about, but I'm enthusiastic about that stuff, not because it's at that college. Is it normal to feel this dispassionate? How the heck am I supposed to decide in April when apparently all I can feel is, "I can't go to this school no matter what."</p>
<p>There is this myth that we are all supposed to have a “feeling” about that one special place or choice that makes us know we are really selecting rightly. Some people do have that feeling, but lots don’t. Heck - some people don’t even really love their brand new baby for several months! </p>
<p>I think you’ll be doing yourself a grave disservice if you think you MUST have these kinds of feelings. </p>
<p>Instead of desperately trying to fall in love with a college, try making a rational decision - a decision that is in your own best interest. Once you’ve done that, you can encourage an attachment, nourish it, and let it grow.</p>