Really need advice...please...

<p>no she says she wants to go to med school later</p>

<p>Hey Worriedkid725.
Let me first say your situation is most intriguing. Not that I’m making fun of you, just that your situation is unique.
As abortion is out of the option, you seem sure on marrying the father. I have two words. Levi Johnston.
Be 100% sure the boy’s father will marry you. Otherwise, be careful treading the water.
I think you can safely rule out any really competitive college. Since you choose not to abort, you have to take full care of the baby unless you’re willing to give the baby up for adoption. The baby comes first, not college.
Excuse my rant that’s coming.
This really disgusts me. You’re having a baby, you refuse to abort, and you’re thinking about Harvard? This speaks volumes about your character. Your baby must come first. Once you give birth (or in a guy’s case, partner gives birth), you’re on the hook. You have to take care of the baby.
You’re coming on to this site and worrying about grades and Harvard. You should be worrying about your baby. Your dreams now are secondary to your child. From what you say, you want to keep the child. Then forget about college until a proper time.
My friend and his girlfriend got a pregnancy scare a couple months ago. They were willing to drop everything on the spot for their baby. They nearly cancelled their apps, but found out they just misread the results. That’s what you should do right now. Forget about college and focus on your baby for the time being.
I’m not saying give up your dreams, just put them on hold. If you really care about the child, you’ll do what you can to ensure the best childhood possible.
Finally, your reactions disgust me. Not your actions, because what goes on between you two is none of your business. But the fact you’re coming here to worry about your admissions when you have a major situation.</p>

<p>Oh, I see the med school comment now.</p>

<p>jeez beatles, a little harsh, no?</p>

<p>beatles missed the posts where she is thinking UMich would be better. On another thread, though, she states engineering. So, I don’t know what’s up. But if anyone is thinking she needs a scolding, it’s been done.</p>

<p>what year is the OP? junior?</p>

<p>sophomore
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<p>oh wow-ie. i thought us michiganders were good seeds!</p>

<p>UMich is still a competitive school. And engineering is still very cuthroat at nearly any school.
All I’m saying is that she has a constitutional right to choose. But if she chooses to have the baby, she must make child-rearing her first priority.</p>

<p>oh? and what about the father? does he get to freely pursue his goals while she cow-tows to their offspring? you need to be a little bit more sensitive in this situation.</p>

<p>Again, that’s why I said, make sure that father supports her. Read my posts more carefully. I said “Levi Johnston”. That should be more than enough.</p>

<p>But in the end, both of you are at fault. I hope you can work to figure someway to succeed.</p>

<p>liv4physics, the fact ofthe matter is, 80% of teenage fathers do not stay in relationships with mothers, most pay less in child support than is required to raise a child. If he were on here, we would give him some advice. The OP is a sophomore who is dealing with a great deal of pressure, and she has already been brow-beaten. I am glad that she hasn’t come back today, so that she is hopefully dealing with her parents, her bf adn his parents. We may never get an update on any of this.</p>

<p>She started another thread yesterday on her summer plans. So she is still out on CC…</p>

<p>Am I the only one who finds a few things odd?</p>

<p>Maybe…sometimes on these types of threads I wonder if the OP and the ■■■■■ are one and the same. But I figure if this isn’t legit, it could be discussion that could help someone else who really has this problem someday.</p>

<p>Haha, agree. Same thoughts in both respects.</p>

<p>Hey guys. I can assure you both this isn’t some lie or joke…though I wish it was. Thank you to everyone who’s been helpful in these first few days. My boyfriend, parents, and I are in the process of making some serious decisions about this that will either way have a great impact on the rest of my life.</p>

<p>I wish you luck.</p>

<p>thanks- it means a lot</p>