I need some recommendation advice.
My S24 asked his Calc AB teacher for a recommendation. She said she would be happy to write one, but that she would have to “be honest” when filling out the ranking of his organization/work habits. I’m not sure what the ranking even means but it sounds like there is some numerical 1-10 sort of ranking system for different categories. He said she was sort of? smiling and maybe? joking when she said it. To me, this is a big red flag.
He gets along well with two social studies teachers he has this year and asked them both and they both said yes but also advised him it would be better to get one STEM teacher. I see this point especially because he is interested in Economics.
The Calculus teacher has been a great teacher, but she is a more serious teacher and so he doesn’t connect with her as much (he likes to joke around). Her assessment of his work habits is also correct - he is not the hardest worker and does not do all his homework. However, he loves math and it comes easily to him (he has a high A) and I think that she appreciates that he finds joy in math like she does.
So, questions I am hoping to get advice about…
Is this usual that a teacher would agree to write a recommendation and then point out negative attributes on the recommendation? I assumed recommendations should be wholly positive.
Should he ask the teacher more specifically what she means?
Should he ask a different teacher?
Should he wait and ask his senior year math teacher?
Thanks!