recommendation question

<p>Is it rude to give teachers guidelines on how to write a recommendation? What about a list of things you have done and adjectives describing yourself and stuff? Isn't that like saying "hi, I don't really trust you to write a good recommendation for me unless you read these guidelines over" ? ... I want to make sure that my recommendations are good by reminding my teachers what to include, but i dont want to come off as rude or untrusting or too controlling....
thx</p>

<p>At my school it was a requirement to give our letter writers a folder with some things in it. This included: all of the forms, envelopes (with stamps), a list of schools and their deadlines, as well as our resume including all of our activities.<br>
Pretty comprehensive, but it makes it easier for them. One of mine actually asked me if there was anything specific I wanted included (I said nothing in particular).</p>

<p>My son gave his teachers a copy of his "resume". This year, I think you should give them some admissions numbers. Many of our teachers are/were clueless about how competitive the competition really is. When we talked with one teacher early on she referenced her application to a local teacher's college - state school - not selective - she really had no idea how competitive admissions is at the top schools. Give them information about you and a frame of reference re: the schools you most want to apply to - just my new (post-admissions) POV.</p>

<p>so it isn't rude, then? thanks!</p>

<p>bump......</p>