Recommendations for NJ colleges that are REALLY admits

Transfer Students
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<p>Oh boy. Here goes:</p>

<p>My brother is currently a junior at a small college in Michigan. A year ago, he dropped a bomb on my parents when he told them that he failed the last semester, but somehow, it was somewhat redeemable, since he could take summer school to make up that class. Well, as an early Christmas gift, he has now informed us that he might fail two classes if he does poorly on the final (which, in all cases, is VERY probable). If he fails even one of these classes, he will be kicked out of this small, and might I mention, VERY EASY college. </p>

<p>In all probablity, he did fail. He has a tendancy to fudge the truth about these kinds of things, because he thinks, in his twisted mind, that lying about things will magically make things go away. And its really ironic too, because he's not a partier, he doesn't binge drink, and if you met him, you'd think he was just a normal person. Not the brightest bulb, but certainly not the complete moron his transcript makes him out to be.</p>

<p>Ai. Honestly, right now, I either think he's the most selfish person I've ever seen, or he's got some mental issues he needs to work out. I have no idea how he could fail out of college, especially when I KNOW he could pass! He's not dumb, I know he's not dumb. He needs to study. He's just horribly lazy.</p>

<p>Anyway, please don't judge me and tell me that I need to drop my brother like a hot tamale. I know that's what he deserves right now, after lying to my parents and racking up credit card debt. Right now, I feel like kicking him out on the street in an act of tough love, for him to actually learn how hard life is outsideo of my parents house, but I can't. My parents are distraught of the fact that their son can't finish college, especially after all they've been through to put him there in the first place.</p>

<p>Can anyone recommend any easy colleges in NJ, preferrably Bergen County, that are easy admits? I'm looking for a real, four year college, not a two year or vocational. Rutgers- there's no way he'll get in. I looked up Bergen Community, but that's only two year... are there any other? Or New York is good too... maybe Catholic. The tougher, the better.</p>

<p>Sigh. I should be working on my own college apps right now, and now I have THIS to deal with..</p>

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<p>maybe community college will be a better school for him to be in. that way, perhaps he can have time to figure some thngs out</p>

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<p>peach3s:</p>

<p>Ok...I have a lot of experience with this, nearly the same thing happened with my fiance. </p>

<p>My fiance nearly flunked out of Pitt our sophomore year (academic probation first semester, asked kindly to stay second semester and bombed then too) and then went to community college when he got home (Buck County, Pa) and there too didn't apply himself.</p>

<p>I see a lot of similarities between my fiance and your brother. Neither of them partied (EverQuest was my fiance's vice...), both are smart (my fiance graduated high school in top 10%, 4.0 weighted GPA, ~1300 SAT), and both of them fudge the truth (this sometimes needs a kick in the butt and a dose of reality...i.e. working in the real world!)...</p>

<p>From what you say about your brother, I'm not sure he's quite ready to continue college for the time being...some people need to know exactly what they want to do and have internal motivation to get it done. Old habits will continue at the community college or small college in NJ. Also, moving back home can be dangerous as well, my fiance's parents didn't encourage him to work half or full-time while at community college and his transition to NC was very difficult (on the both of us)...it may be best for your parents to take him in until he can afford his own place, and then move into an apartment and see how many real people live and how hard it is to get a good white collar job without a that little piece of paper (it is a eye-opener!). </p>

<p>Some things your brother needs to figure out before you plan his life (don't feel bad, I did the same things with my fiance...)....#1: What does he really want to do with his life and what does he need to achieve it? (this can take a long time...my fiance is 23 and still isn't quite clear on this yet...this is the BIG ONE), and #2: How can he motivate himself to go to classes and take exams?</p>

<p>For yourself and your brother, don't get caught up in the community college is a 2 year program stuff...the best way to redeem yourself after flunking out of a college is by proving your dedication and ability to follow through what you start by earning an associates degree before tranferring back into a 4-year school!</p>

<p>Lastly, worry a bit about your brother, but don't get enveloped with his problems. Some people have a harder time growing up than others, the decietfulness of your brother likely will be hard to change (it took me nearly losing my fiance and my fiance losing my parents respect to get him to change and I hope the change is permanent...he's doing 100000x better now...), this is the worst problem now...If it gets really bad and he's lying about money, grades, work, etc. your parents may want to get him a good professional counselor (though sometimes they don't work either...) to help work out the issues and such. </p>

<p>Sorry if I looked too deeply into your brothers problems here, it wasn't my intention...I just want you to be on your guard...</p>

<p>Let me know if you need any clarification, or PM me if you have any specific questions...</p>