<p>Basically, UCLA was my dream school for over a year and I'd do anything to go there. Most of my friends knew that, including one of my very close ones. Back in November, he said that he wasn't going to apply because he has way better stats than me and he didn't want to ruin my chances of getting in. If he didn't apply, then I'd probably be one of the best applicants to UCLA from my school. However, the day before the UC deadline, he suddenly decided to apply because he wanted to "see if he could get in." I was fine with that, because it's always good to have a backup plan. Around 2 weeks later, he got into his top choice, a US News top 5 school. </p>
<p>Since he was already in his #1 choice that he would definitely go to, I asked him if he could withdraw his application. He said no, because he still wanted to "see if he could get in." I was a little apprehensive, but didn't say much because there was a slight chance that I could get in as well. Just 5 minutes ago, I found out I was rejected while he got a likely letter and I'm ****ed as hell right now. I had no idea that one of my close friends would betray me like that, and that's what hit me the hardest when I read my rejection letter. It makes me sick knowing that my "friend" is probably taking my spot or the spot of someone else who REALLY wanted to go to UCLA while he probably has no intention of attending. </p>
<p>I know this is all a bunch of pointless rambling and that most of you don't care, but I really don't know how to feel right now. I get over rejection pretty easily (having dealt with it several times before this), but it really troubles me that my "friend" would rather stroke his ego with a low match/safety school acceptance than help me get into my dream university. Any opinions would be greatly appreciated. </p>
<p>Honestly, I don’t think you should blame your friend. Unlike private universities, UCLA admits students based on a point system. It doesn’t matter how many other people from your school apply. Even if he had taken your spot, there is no productivity in being mad at him and he has the right to apply wherever he wants.</p>
<p>Yeah, I don’t think your friend applying would ruin your chances. If you are qualified to get in, then it doesn’t really matter. Anger at him is probably eating up your mind, but don’t blame him.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t feel betrayed just because he applied, just take it with a grain a salt. To be fair (which i know sucks when your ranting) he does have a right to apply anywhere. The only true grounds for being mad is him saying he wouldn’t apply and then apply ( betraying your word). Yet if he told you he was gonna apply when he “suddenly decided” then hes still a good friend (kind of). From now on, I would be a bit more cautious in calling him a friend and more of a buddy.</p>
<p>College admissions are stressful. You put your entire life onto a piece of paper and hope that someone understands your passion and dreams. I understand that you are upset. </p>
<p>However, be realistic. UCLA is the 2nd best public school in the state, and I would argue that it’s equivalent to Cal. It’s a good back up option that someone should have in case finances or something else comes up. College admissions are personal, and if he decided to apply, that’s his business. Honestly, I think you were out of line to try to restrict his applications. Again, UCLA is on a point system, and it doesn’t limit applications from certain schools.</p>
<p>I doubt that your admissions decision would be any different even if your friend didn’t apply. Even among schools that do limit decisions this way, I’ve only heard that they do it by region, not school. Maybe you could transfer to UCLA in the future? Grad school?</p>
<p>I don’t think it would’ve affected your decision much, and TECHNICALLYYYY your friend had every right to apply, but man that was still an as<em>hole move lol. you have a right to be *</em>**ed, I think. That was very selfish of him especially since he had no intentions of going.</p>
<p>Life has better plans for you I’m sure. I hope you don’t feel too down.</p>
<p>Awwwh. Sorry about your rejection and I understand your frustration. If only magic was real so you and your friend could switch bodies. (-: Good luck to you. Hope all goes well. </p>
<p>And. Omg. @alwaysleah:
“College admissions are stressful. You put your entire life onto a piece of paper and hope that someone understands your passion and dreams.” I looove what you said. (’:</p>
<p>Ok after a long night’s sleep I feel a little better now and I realize that I sound like an idiot for blaming my rejection on someone other than myself. After all, I probably would’ve been rejected anyway, seeing how there are dozens of kids with 4.2+ GPAs and 2300s getting waitlisted/rejected in the UCLA forums. I was just really distressed yesterday after getting rejected from 2 schools and waitlisted at another. Whatever though, I’m over it now, although I still think that my friend was a dick for still applying.</p>
<p>It doesn’t work that way. One other kid from your school applying to any given school doesn’t make a gnat’s wing’s difference. 20 kids applying from one school to a tiny LAC, with all 20 kids qualified can make a difference, but 1 kid? Absolutely not. They don’t take the apps from the highschools and line them up from the same schools, you know. Your friend’s app had absolutely nothing to do with your outcome.</p>
<p>Just imagine all the new friends that you will be able to make when you do get into college. So many of the things that you were worried about and upset over in high school will have become just a memory and you will wonder why you were so uptight over it all.</p>
<p>It sounds like you definitely need to relax and look at the world with a wider perspective. Although you now realize that your friend is not the reason that you didn’t get in, that doesn’t mean that he is such a great buddy either. If you really think the guy is a jerk then move on to other friends. Being so competitive with a friend is not a warm and fuzzy feeling.</p>
<p>While you are very disappointed about not getting into your dream school, you need to consider that perhaps the universe is leading you into another and better direction. Right now you think that your first and best choice was the ideal way for you to go but the fact is that the school that you do eventually go to might offer you some opportunities that you can’t even imagine right now. Try to relax and look on the bright side and imagine all the wonders that your future will offer.</p>
<p>I’m sorry about your rejection, but there were thousands of other people who applied to UCLA this year. You shouldn’t take your anger out on your friend. Yes, what he said was a bit inconsiderate. But, it’s his life, his college acceptances/rejections and he can do what he wants. UCLA just isn’t the school you are meant to go to. It will be okay.</p>
<p>What a joke. Do you know how many applicants UCLA has? You think you were the one right on the end of the list, and your friend’s withdrawal would have gotten you in? How wonderfully smug.</p>
<p>Hey Smugness, I get how you feel. My best friend and I are always competing grade wise and it HURTS when she beats me grade / EC wise. Chin up, you can always transfer in!</p>
<p>you’re joking, right? your friend had complete right to apply. he didn’t betray you. it’s not like he cheated. the admissions decisions were perfectly fair, don’t blame some else because you got rejected. they’re your stats and whatnot.</p>