<p>My S's letter of acceptance from OCU was skinny, two sheets in a regular evelope.</p>
<p>To those who put up some posts on this thread this afternoon, </p>
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<p>How do we contact Roger Dooley? I really think "Roger" needs to publically respond. This is ridiculous.</p>
<p>I agree. I happen to know what it's about and I believe it is totally unwarranted.</p>
<p>I agree! There probably is no such person as "Roger"!</p>
<p>If you look at the top of the front page for "College Discussion," you can find two threads started by "Roger Dooley." One is entitled "Blogging for Admission?" and you can pm or email him from there ... whatever happened. Anyone wanna tell me off-list? Now I'm curious.</p>
<p>Awhile back another person was "banned" from posting and I asked why, was given a sketchy non answer, and was told not to ask anymore questions. What is going on? Why is it all a secret that has to be discussed "off list"? Guess I'll be banned next for asking too many questions.</p>
<p>I am not among those who know what prompted this action, but I would like to suggest that everyone take a deep breath and not get overexcited and accusatory. Many of us have been on this forum for going on three years now and I have to tell you there have been several occasions wherein people displayed a pattern of inappropriate behavior or blatantly ignored the rules that govern posting on this site. In each and every instance the board moderators took baby steps to try and help the "offending" posters before taking more drastic action, i.e., removing posts or banning a poster. We are not privy to any private communication that goes on between posters and moderators when it is called for and are thus not in the best position to judge their actions when we only see the end result. An offer has been made to contact the Forum Administrator if we want more specific information and I would hope that any who have serious concerns about the root causes of this action will seek that information before inciting others. </p>
<p>There is indeed a real "Roger" and I, for one, trust that he and CollegeMom are doing all they can to insure the integrity of this forum and the safety and well being of all who participate here. We have a real gift here friends. Lets not forget that.</p>
<p>Roger Dooley is the Forum Adminstrator. You can just click on his name in any of his posts (do a search) and send him a PM or e mail. However, you cannot discuss moderation ON the forums according to our Terms of Service so this must end. </p>
<p>Roger has the ultimate authority on the forum and the mods must abide by any decisions he has made. You can address your questions to him as he is the one who made this decision or took any moderator actions. </p>
<p>Razorback, as well as any others, I must caution you to not make assumptions, as you are not privy to any ongoing moderator concerns or issues that the Forum Administrator has regarding any particular posters. You may have assumptions or hear something, but not the background. There is ongoing moderation that is not shared publicly of which you are not aware.</p>
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<p>In sum, if you have more questions, Roger handled this matter and made this decision. I also am not at liberty to comment on the issues involved or moderation that has taken place over time with any poster, about which you are not aware. </p>
<p>As well, Mr. Dooley would not publicly explain moderation about any poster ON the forums. There is a lot of moderation that goes on that posters are not aware of. These are not discussed on the forum. </p>
<p>Feel free to conact the moderators at any time. In this particular instance, Roger is the one who handled this matter. </p>
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<p>I want to thank Theatermom for her post above which cross posted with my post. She is right that other posters may see an action and make assumptions but no poster here knows the story behind the actions taken or if they are a result of issues over a period of time. Nobody here is aware of previous moderation with any poster. The mods do not moderate with a heavy hand. As she said, in all cases, there are many interventions over a period of time. Each case needing moderation is discussed with other moderators and the forum administrator, as they arise. The action you are posting about today was one that Roger Dooley decided and handled and again, you are free to contact him. </p>
<p>Thank you, theatermom, as well, for recognizing that in all cases, we do work to insure the integrity of the forum. A lot goes on behind the scenes and actions have been taken that others are not aware of, but have kept our forum running as it has in the way that most of you enjoy and benefit from. </p>
<p>Thank you for understanding. I have made Roger aware of your questions. However, you need to contact him directly as well as I cannot answer them in this instance.</p>
<p>I guess what I am trying to understand is why did Razorback's original question get pulled? She specifically asked Mary Anna, publicly, to update the board on the progress of her students. Are posters not allowed to ask questions anymore? Was she just supposed to assume that Mary Anna was ignoring her because she would have no way of knowing that she had been blocked from the board and would never have received a response?</p>
<p>gkoukla and NOCCAMOM, please remember that public discussion of Moderation actions is not allowed per your Terms of Service. The Moderators do NOT take any actions lightly. If you wish to query or express a concern, you may certainly PM any Mod or, if you feel more appopriate, the site owner Roger_Dooley.</p>
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<p>Huh? Why does this board always have to get ugly this time of year? Last year was totally ridic. No repeats please. :)</p>
<p>Hey, I thought I’d bump this as audition season is rapidly approaching. I think we all know that children will not get into every program for which they auditioned, but here are some ways to handle (or NOT handle bad news).</p>
<p>Wow, maybe it is because I am looking at the is thread seven years later, but there sure seems to be a lot more going on in this thread than “how to handle a rejection letter,” especially given other threads that have popped up over the years on coaching vs. no coaching, the pros and cons of coaching, marketing of services, etc. Interesting. </p>
<p>As for rejection letters. They will come to your kids. That is almost as much of a given as death and taxes. We let our son open the letters on his own. These kids are going to embark on competitive field. They need to take ownership of that and this is the part where they start to become adults and have to deal with rejection. They need to learn to get up and move on. There may be some sadness, anger, fits of questioning their talent for some, and a million other emotions. BUT there will also be an acceptance letter for (most) kids, somewhere along the line.</p>
<p>HA! Admittedly, I didn’t read past the 1st or 2nd page! I guess after that things got ugly, huh?</p>
<p>WTH I’m all in the 7 year old drama now! lol</p>
<p>When considering size of envelopes, be advised that Penn State has, in the past, often sent out a large envelope if a student does not get accepted into MT but is a candidate for other majors at the school. I suppose there are in-state students who might actually want to go to PSU no matter the major. It’s a surprise to out-of-state students who are only interested in MT, however, when they find the big envelope is not always good news.
Also, parents who hover over CC often know in advance of their children if a rejection is on its way, because CC people get all excited when acceptances come out. Acceptances come often first by email or a phone call. So if you’ve heard on CC that acceptances for CCM for example are coming out, and your child hasn’t heard anything, you know it’ll be bad news later.</p>
<p>Yes, rejection letters and fat and thin envelopes are slice of history. You will know what’s coming your way from most programs long before you check the mailbox. Sigh.</p>
<p>GOODNESS!! So the drama came on page 5. I hadn’t gotten that far. WOW! Anyhoo, re: rejections, let the student open their own letters unless they tell you otherwise. Not looking forward to them, but my daughter and I know that they will come. Her instructions to me: “Don’t open my mail!” 'Nuf said!</p>