<p>I would like older couples opinions on communication in relationships</p>
<p>I truly believe that some relationships progressive faster emotionally because of a certain dynamic that depends on the guys willingness to point out certain things to a girl, which in that case leads the girl to respond and explain her actions.</p>
<p>Exhibit:</p>
<p>Boy (26) likes (24) girl, but boys body language somehow makes girl think that he doesnt like her.</p>
<p>Boy and girl are dating, watching a movie together. Girl is repeatedly thinking that boy isnt open to her affections (cuddling on couch, watching a movie), so she hugs her dog the whole time (or cat)</p>
<p>Then </p>
<p>Case 1:
Boy: how come you are hugging that darn dog this whole time? Or: Whats up with you and that darn dog? (annoyed and maybe hurt/jealous at darn dog)</p>
<p>Girl: well, I tried to lean against you just now and you just brushed me off</p>
<p>Boy: Oh did I? Ive been engrossed in this movie. I think I was just laughing at that funny scene and my shoulder jerked.</p>
<p>Girl leans against guy, movie watching is resumed. Problem solved!</p>
<p>OR</p>
<p>Case 2:</p>
<p>Boy: (Thinks to himself, I drove ALL the way HERE and shes sitting on opposite side of couch? I guess she isnt into me that much. )à makes a judgement about the girl.</p>
<p>Girl: Hmm I think that he doesnt really care about me .</p>
<p>Boy and Girl remain emotionally distant</p>
<p> Of Course its rarely that simple, but what if you have a finance and he demonstrates case 2 all the time?</p>
<p>And the man never listens to nagging or even careful mentioning of these things?</p>
<p>--Of course, men ALWAYS want to be the one with the great ideas, so if the women has the idea to mention that he needs to be more communicative, then he doesnt want to do it because its not his idea. There needs to be a way to plant that idea into him!</p>
<p>1.) Seasoned people in relationships: how do you go about getting your man to be more communicative instead of just going directly to judgements about the girl?
2.) AND, say the man doesnt think that being communicative is very Manly, than how would you go about explaining that in relationships, being somewhat sensitive/ open/communicative isnt a sign of weakness? I mean, Im not asking for Fabio here, just how to get the man to open up! : )</p>
<p>--AND, does anybody watch desperate housewives? Arent Lynette and Tom Scavos senario an awfully lot like case #2? And dont they have the most durable marriage (not that they are anything at all to model on lol )</p>