As a resident, I can tell you that getting involved with my CA has been the most gut wrenching and heart breaking thing I’ve ever done. Before we started seeing each other he was so much fun to be around and he would talk and joke with me like we were friends. Then i admitted to having feelings for him and he said that he couldn’t reciprocate my feelings because I was a resident but we began seeing each other in secret. Things were good and then he ended things. He said that I deserved so much better and that I shouldn’t have to hide my feelings from my friends. So we called it quits and decided to stay friends. A week later, we were hanging out and he started things again saying that we just couldn’t see each other as often because he was worried that people would find out. I was okay with hiding this because he makes me happy and then things got bad. He started ignoring me entirely. Snapchat. In person. There was nothing. Last weekend I called him out and he said he was adding distance and that he would keep talking to me but still nothing. I lost an amazing friend because we decided to fool around together. I don’t regret how I felt or what we did. I’m just upset that I can no longer fo to him. He’s cut himself off from me completely. I miss him and I hate that things have turned out this way. I’ll answer any questions you guys might have.
Don’t date someone in a position of power over you. Just good life advice.
^^ Agree. This is a tough lesson to learn… and painful, too.
Also, when it comes to potential dates, it’s usually best to avoid your coworkers and neighbors in your apartment building… First, just ask yourself “If this were to end badly, would I be OK with running into this person multiple times a day?”
I echo @cameo43 and @romanigypsyeyes - with one more things to add…
you say “I was okay with hiding this because he makes me happy …” A wise person once told me, “Only YOU can make you happy…” Your happiness comes from within.