<p>I am a current student at SUNY Geneseo, I am a transfer student who came in last fall. I am a sophomore currently and I have a slight LD. As of now I am recovering from an emotional break down I faced at the school which almost ended in me taking my own life. The staff/administration here did little to nothing to help expect to write me a prescription for a mid size dose of prozac after my seconded visit to the health center , but from what i hear that is normal. Had it not been for the great people around me I know for a fact I would have died. </p>
<p>Coming to this school I knew it would be hard but it would be great for my major, yet shortly after me coming here my major changed, I changed from psy to history. My grades very good, but I am getting for Geneseo. That said it is ok for a Geneseo G.P.A. I also have found great people who I love being around and felt like I have grown so much. Yet despite this I feel like I want to transfer last semester I scared myself deeply and since I changed my major I don't feel like I should be here.</p>
<p>Not being a bio/chem major most others major are really poorly funded and I notice this more and more while I get to spend more time in my department. I feel like, i would hate to leave the people here yet the school itself can't really do to much for me in my new major. </p>
<p>But the colleges i would be able to transfer to would be very close to home and I would have to live at home again. The schools are also not the best they more or less four year community colleges. I feel like after last semester maybe finishing up my schooling at a college close to home would be good for me, yet i would hate to leave the people here. I had consider changing schools but I am not sure if my GPA is strong enough to get into Bing or schools like it again, plus the idea of starting fresh and having to make new friends all over again does not sit well with me. </p>
<p>I know Geneseo is a good school but my mental health means more to me plus the school itself minus the other students seem to have their heads up their own asses on how they speak about the school. I am just not sure what to do as of yet I did work really hard to get in but now i am not so sure if i want to be here, any input would be great.</p>
<p>Are you seeing a counselor or therapist?
It seems critical that you do so.
I would advise to move back home, start therapy if you havent already done so & perhaps take a few classes at a local college.</p>
<p>Yes, I am currently seeing a counselor. When I told my parents they asked me to stay for a full year. I think it would do me better to move home but I think it would bring my parents shame. </p>
<p>my end term exams are between May 9-14. I would love to see a therapist but no my knowledge ny school only has counselors and I do not have health insurance nor do my parents. </p>
<p>With the Affordable Care Act, there is no reason not to have health insurance, which also covers mental health.</p>
<p>It is too bad your parents potentially might feel shame. I have read that 82% of college graduates live at home. One of mine was having difficulty at school and I think she made a smart decision to come home. I fully supported her because I trust her, and she is doing fine with a more multifaceted life than she was having at college, to be honest. I hope your parents can welcome you home. These days, you don’t lose friends that easily with social media and you can always visit. And remember there is no hurry in finishing: take a course load that you can enjoy without undue stress for a bit, and make sure to get a therapist :)</p>
<p>How can you be at a college and not have insurance? It’s a requirement at every school I’ve ever heard of.</p>
<p>I think you need to take at least a semester off to work on your mental health and consider your options without the pressure of being in school. You’re an adult and this is your decision; whatever “shame” your parents might feel is their problem and is inconsequential in light of what is best for your own future health and well being. </p>
<p>I do think going home for a term would be great for my mental health but I am getting some pull back from my parents, do to the fact that the school I would go to at home is just an ok school at best and to them I would be leaving one of the best schools. I also guess I would feel some shame in myself, I mean I deeply feel strongly that transferring or even a term off would do me good. Just my dad was so happy and proud of me that I was able to get in, and I have never got a response so positive like that from him before.</p>
<p>What I was suggesting was just a medical leave of absence from Geneseo–not a withdrawal. And I don’t see any need to take classes elsewhere during this period. Just give yourself a break, work on your health, pursue some hobbies, and develop some clarity on your future. One of the areas you’ll need to work on in therapy is how to not to put pleasing your parents as your top priority. It’s nice to make your parents happy, but it shouldn’t be a goal that controls your decisions. Good luck.</p>
<p>I talked it over with my mom and she was hard pressed, she wants me to stay in Geneseo for the fall term. She would prefer that I went to school even while on leave. I mean I am going to graduate a bit late anyway since a good part of my transfer credits did not carry over, so I can understand why she feels that way. </p>
<p>I am still having a hard time trying to find just what I should do, and what will be the best for me in the end. But if I transferred out of Geneseo to oh say a 4-year community college. Would it hurt me that badly in the job market/my life as a whole. I hear from some that all that matters is that you have a degree and from then on its your work ethic and from other I hear it only matters as to what school you went to. </p>
<p>You’ve already been suicidal. It’s sort of good that you were scared. You need to take care of your mental health. There is nothing that should be a higher priority for you. </p>
<p>None of your other concerns are matters of life and death. Not school, not major, not departmental funding, not whether your parents would be ashamed of you, not what matters in the job market. None of this is immediately as important as treating your depression. </p>
<p>Prozac is one part of the solution but you probably really need a therapy team that includes both a psychiatrist to monitor your medication, and a professional psychologist to help you develop strategies for overcoming your depression. You need to find a way to get treatment. I’m not sure how you go about getting health insurance, but it seems like you can. Many therapists also use a sliding scale. </p>
<p>I don’t think you should live at home. I can’t tell, but either your parents try to control you, or you encourage them to control you. Your parents don’t seem to acknowledge that you have mental health issues and need their support. They seem too concerned with the qualify of the school, which is irrelevant if you don’t treat your depression first. You need to be around supportive people and it seems as though they are at school. You also need to be in therapy even over the summer. I would think that this could all be arranged while staying at Geneseo. At home, your parents might not understand. If they are not part of the solution then they are part of the problem. Only you can make that assessment. </p>
<p>I think staying at Geneseo, even over the summer, so that you can see your therapist (which you will find shortly) will be better. </p>
<p>Day dreamer, I hope you find peace. What a tough situation to be in. I do not think where you go to college is a big issue, it’s the major that you decide, are there enough jobs in your field. If so, and you work really hard, then anyone can take those jobs. Once you are in the workforce, it no longer matters what school you went to, what gpa you had. Good luck! Keep seeking support from your school. </p>
<p>What you have to understand is that mental illness is an ILLNESS. I may be wrong, but from what you’ve written, some of what you are experiencing with your parents may be cultural. It doesn’t matter where you end up if you’re not mentally healthy. Try to get through to your parents that there is no shame in coming home. Maybe you can get help convincing them from a relative, family friend or clergy. Good Luck and never give up on your dreams.</p>
<p>Thank you everyone for your input, right now I feel like I am in a good place besides some anxiety from my end term exams/essays. I have been thinking again of transferring and I have a new fear, this one comes from me transferring but I would still feel the way I did when I first started here. I am not sure I could make it if after all the work i did to transfer for then me to fall back into such a poor state and this time away from my friends and the school i worked so hard for. </p>