<p>So I went over my friend's house on Friday to tutor her in AP World History. It isn't until today, Sunday, that my mom gets in my face and yells at me about it. She says "I don't care if that's your friend. And I don't care if that class is hard. It's her problem." She told me that I couldn't help my friends with homework anymore and I couldn't tutor unless I demanded pay, and now I feel really bad because I know my friend (and her parents) will see me negatively now. I have wanted to start a tutoring business, but of course, I have close friends who honestly want to try, so I do want to help them for free. But I know that'll get me in trouble. So I'm confused.</p>
<p>I'm confused too. Do you go to a competitive high school? Maybe your mom just wants you to have a high rank. (I hate to judge like that, but the way you describe her for helping someone is just :eek:</p>
<p>That seems to be pretty unreasonable of your mom, although she could be concerned that if you spend too much time helping other people, your own academic performance will suffer. I'm just speculating here, but maybe she thinks that because you help your friends so much, you might as well profit from all the time you invest in tutoring them.</p>
<p>Did she actually call up your friend and tell her parents that you're not going to help your friend anymore? If your friends are the understanding sort of people, I'd explain the situation to them.</p>
<p>Also, if you're part of the National Honor Society at your school, you might be able to get involved with tutoring without demanding pay from your friends. At my school, NHS runs a volunteering tutoring program that allows its members to tutor other students for free. Perhaps you can use that as an excuse for helping your friends.</p>
<p>I hate schools that have that cut-throat atmosphere to them. If I were you, I would help my friends at lunch or homeroom. That's what I do now actually, but my parents would allow me to help them after school. </p>
<p>Or you can just tell your mom the truth and how you feel. You can tell her that she shouldn't worry about your rank or your academics because that is your business and not hers. </p>
<p>Personally, I am a coward so I would go with the first option.</p>
<p>Thanks for replying. </p>
<p>My mom has nothing to worry about when it comes to my academics. I'm first in my class of 480 students with a 105.5715 GPA. I'm highly involved in numerous extracurricular activities and am taking the hardest course load available. </p>
<p>And I do not know why she has just now started botching about my grades. She keeps threatening me and constantly warns, "If your grades go down, you are going to get in big, BIG trouble." I don't think I have anything to worry about, but I think she should just butt out of it, considering that she's a high school dropout that works at Subway. And since my parents aren't helping me financially with college, they should pretty much leave me alone. </p>
<p>And yes, my high school graduating class is quite competitive, if you look at the people with the ten highest GPAs.</p>
<p>You have a point there (but when arguing with her, don't mention that whole drop-out thing. It's just opening a can of worms. Ugly worms.) </p>
<p>I seriously have no idea why your mom doesn't want you to be nice, which is essentially what she is preventing you from doing. Any more information?</p>
<p>I think your mom's being a little irrational-is she afraid that your GPA is going to fall to 100 from 106? Anything that's 97+ is an A+ no matter what, and if your school doesn't have A+s then its anything above 93. BTW are you asian? That could be the problem (jk jk)</p>
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That seems to be pretty unreasonable of your mom, although she could be concerned that if you spend too much time helping other people, your own academic performance will suffer.
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<p>For me, a lot of the time, whenever I help people study for a test, it actually helps me a lot too, because I'm able to understand the material a lot more, since I have to explain it to someone else.</p>
<p>I have never understood your parents, Righteous_Vigilante; they are realtively uneducated, poor, and hold unskilled jobs; yet they criticize their own daughter who wants out of the situation and is actively attempting to do so by putting in time with schoolwork?
I smell more jealousy emanating from your parents, and personally can't wait to see you bust out of there. It sounds like it was their fault that they put themselves in such a situation, and yet they continue to displace their anger on you. Figures.</p>