Rommate advice. Urgent!

<p>So, I'm rooming with someone from my H.S. We were never great friends in H.S. but it was a convenient pairing, I consider myself to be friends with him now though.. The first semester was fine, you know sometimes little things bother you, but I'm pretty tolerable about that, I'll let it go... THis I can't let go though. Heres it goes... im gonna be real detailed, be prepared... its long, and im ranting and rambling. Enjoy.</p>

<p>So this kid just broke up with his gf. Cool. In college I have become a kid who is extremely motivated to do well... I spend a lot of time at the library and Im constantly trying to get work done. The previous 3 days I'd been working on a crapload of work and got maybe 5 hours per night, not enough for me... My work was handed in Tuesday and I was able to relax and figured I'd get some much needed sleep. Anyways, I have classes beginning at 10:10, meaning I have to get my **** together starting at 9:15. Last night my roommate brings this broad in from a few floors down, who I hate. I do not care if he hooks up with her. I am not in the room alot to begin with so its not a big deal, but once it affects my sleep, Im <strong><em>ed. Ok, so I go to sleep at about 1:30 AM. At 2:15 AM my roommate and I are in bed and I hear the door swing open(he likes to leave the door open, I have no *</em></strong>ing clue why)... its the girl and her roommate looking in the room, they laugh and giggle back to the elevator waking my ass and my roommate up. I fall back asleep. I hear the door open again, check the time: 4:05 AM. This time its my roommate and this broad. They do what has become a twice or three time a week ritual, which is get into bed together, talk incosiderately loud and make out. Again, I have no problem with him hooking up, I am willing to leave the room(if Im around) for an hour or two if it is reasonable time. 4:05 Is not reasonable time. Its important to understand the setup of our room.... we have a big box room and our beds are alingned where the head of his bed is and the head of my bed are seperated by about 4 feet. Yea, bad news. Anyway so, I wake up and they are having a normal conversation, Im *<strong><em>ed but dont say anything, I try to put my ear plugs in, they dont do *</em></strong>. This broad loves talking, she wont *<strong><em>, she talks, he talks, and then she laughs real loud. OK, so then they start making out, this is the most disgusting noise I've ever heard. I've never heard kissing sound as disgusting as they make it sound. You know those really annoying people who eat with their mouths open? You know that gross sound when their eating something moist and their toungue is smacking their food and the side of their mouth, yea its gross... and the fact that I have the image of my roommate kissing this broad to go along with it makes it worse tenfold. Anyways, so my roommate is doing his thing, I figure they'll be settle down be quiet... I was wrong. He turns on the T.V. which is *</em></strong>ing huge and hence really bright which makes it bright and noisy... awesome! 5:30 AM rolls around, Im now wide awake, I can't fall asleep.... Im *<em>ed. They are still talking at a ridiculous pace... I can't hear what they are saying really, its stiffled whispering... but its loud and pitchy. Im lieing awake in bed and trying to be considerate and not interrupt them, and too make matters worse, this punk puts on Titanic on T.V... *</em><em>? So first they wake me up, then I cant fall back asleep so I figure I;ll atlest get some entertainement, but he tortures me with Titanic? I start wondering if Hell is being locked in a room with this exact situation, nah... Hell is probably awesome compared to this. So Its 6:15, they are still going at it, talking and kissing... Its been over two hours... all the bad things I wanted to do to him and her enter my mind... I figured 2 hours is sufficient time, so I start making hints that Im *</em><strong>ing tired, Lawning mad loud and coughing and sneezing. He knows he woke me up, as I'd been restless , once I sneezed, and he says "God Bless You!", Is he *</strong>ing kidding? I was <strong><em>ed, I wanted to address him at a better time, so I didnt respond. Once I yawn loud, and she looks back to see my eyes wide open. She starts whispering to him... 15 minutes later he looks back, I kept my eyes open hopeing he'd feel like a piece of *</em></strong> and make her leave. Wrong. They begin whispering about ,me, she at one point said, "I feel so bad..." then continued to do the same *** for the next hour. So all finally she leaves at 7:40 AM! ****! I got to wake up in less then 2 hours. It was an impossible environment to fall asleep, there wasnt a 5 minute period where they were't blabbing about something. Once the girl(im using all my might to refraim from referring to her differently) leaves I fall asleep fine. Its cool, no noise no vomit enducing sound effects. In total I get like less then 4 hours of sleep. </p>

<p>Again, Im a motivated student, I had four classes(today) and waking up on 4 hours is bad news for me. This is directly affecting my work, I fell asleep in one lecture, I felt like complete **** the others. Now, my GPA is twice my roommates, not to sound arrogant, but the kid skips atleast one class a day. He is a good kid for the most part, but the fact is just because your not going to wake up for class, doesn't mean Im not, I need to sleep to perform to the high level I want. So, I woke up and thoughts of how im going to address him have raced through my mind all day, Its time to lay down the law before this becomes more frequent and gets worse. If you're going to hook up with a girl at the expense of yuor sleep, thats fine, do it on your time, become nocturnal, but don't do **** on my watch. I cant figure out why this kid doesnt do this during the day, this is ovbiously a horrible time to be doing this, again I am willing to leave the room for a few hours anywhere between 5 PM-11:30PM to compromise. This has become atlest a twice a weke occurence, not good. I have always been nothing but considerate with this kid, I never make a ****ing noise, I wanted to blast my music this morning but didn't, I wanted to slug him in the nose, but I didn't This kid loves eating my food, I can live with that... he loves leaving the TV on at night, I can live with that... I've never said anything about either, but he crossed the line with this one.</p>

<p>So my question to you CCers... how do you address this? am I way out of line here? Whats a good compromise. I figure nothing after 12 on school nights, and on weekends I can ovbously be alot more accomodating. How do I lay down the law without him getting to upset a telling some of our mutual friends how unaccomodating I am (rolleyes)?</p>

<p>Thanks for reading, and please reply... I put alot of effort into this, probably too much.</p>

<p>Peace.</p>

<p>i'm not in college, so I can't fully understand your problem to the same extent others might, but here's my advice.</p>

<p>when you talk to him, don't be angry. be calm.</p>

<p>be like yo man, i need sleep cause I got class in the morning..... if you're gonna hook up can you do it when i'm not sleeping? i need sleep like a druggie needs crack.........</p>

<p>if he agrees, end the conversation. if he doesn't...........</p>

<p>smack him in the face and make him your personal *****.</p>

<p>Tell your roommate exactly what the problem is, and how you feel about not getting any sleep.... just tell him that you need so and so amount of sleep, and you'd appreciate it if he would allow for you to get that sleep (let him decide what he has to do to accomodate that), and if he doesn't like it and tells all your mutual friends about it, then he is awefully immature, and time will prove this. Any good intentioned friend would understand how rude it is to keep somebody up and sabotage their goals... it's truly *<strong><em>ed up. I wouldn't worry too much about your mutual friends turning on you, and just lay down your feelings about this *</em></strong> with no apology. You're being way too accomodating now.... you deserve respect too.</p>

<p>is this girl hot? If so be cool and ask if she could bring a friend next time ;)</p>

<p>I wouldn't hit it. Personally, I hate her, Shes rude, she tries to insult me about my superior work ethic and puts me down because Im not willing to go out and get sloppy drunk every weekend. She knows nothing about me, my past... but she loves to say rude **** to my face... Usually I just play it off, I hate confrontation, but next time I'll probably snap and might end up duffing her in the face.</p>

<p>LOL, You guys probably have this twisted perception of me that I have no backbone... Don't get it twised, I stand up for myself but this situation is a little tricky.</p>

<p>I think he knows Im *<strong><em>ed today, Im juggling the idea of going talking to him tonight and letting him know that its inconsiderate to be donig what hes doing and its got to stop and seeing if it happens again if flipping the *</em></strong> out if it does, while it does.</p>

<p>You have my sympathies, but this could have/could be solved in three easy ways:
1. Say, "Hey, can you be quiet?" If they don't, keep saying it over and over and mention that you have class.
2. Talk to the RA.
3. Move out or make him move out.
There are some things about roommates that you just have to tolerate, but now it's time to confront him.</p>

<p>One of my closest friends here had that exact same problem last semester as TheProfessor is now. He was unfortunate that his roommate, who never goes to class and is a full-time partier, is also beloved by every single girl in our dorm, including his RA. (Really, I can't imagine how every girl could love this total jerk who smokes weed and gets drunk every night :confused: ) His RA refused to listen to him about any complaints against his roommate. But he got lucky, as some spaces opened up in other rooms this semester and he grabbed the first one he could. Now his new roommate is a full-time gamer, but he could care less after what he went through in 1st semester.</p>

<p>"Really, I can't imagine how every girl could love this total jerk who smokes weed and gets drunk every night"</p>

<p>Come on, that's an easy one.</p>

<p>As for you, I think you're plan of attack is as good as it can be for right now. I would expect that he'd appreciate the fact that you waited until the girl is gone, so that might work in your favor. Bring it up either way. Evil is right about not screaming at him - don't do that. I don't think he'd be ****ed if you just asked him to bring girls over during the day, when you weren't sleeping, so try that out and see how it works.</p>

<p>This happened ONE week for me and I dealt with the situation the following week... my roommate would watch TV all night and sorry, but I can't sleep with the bright TV light and sound. One day I got back from class(after a night with the TV on til 5AM) and said, "******, I fell asleep in two of my classes today because I couldn't sleep last night. If you want to do stuff past eleven you need to go down to the study lounge or TV lounge." She isn't my only roommate so that night at dinner we talked about what kind of rules we all thought would be reasonable. Here's the general idea:
1) studying quietly with minimal light is okay at all times
2) typing on the computer is NOT allowed to go on all night (that annoyed one girl)...
3) generally, if the majority of the roommates want to sleep, than the people who don't have to deal with it by leaving or being silent... unless EVERYONE is up and awake(and this applies after 11 only... if someone wants to go to bad at 8pm then too bad.)</p>

<p>Talk to him once and than go to your residence assistant. You're paying to live there and he shouldn't be disrupting your life just as your living habits shouldn't be so outrageous to be disrupting his.</p>

<p>Just pull him aside and talk to him in a friendly manner. I know you must be ****ed, but try to keep an amiable mentality.</p>