roomie doesn't want to meet before move-in

<p>ok, now im regretting ever putting up this post. i mean, its getting ridiculous! and besides, its my fault for not laying out all my reasoning behind not wanting to use a fridge,tv,microwve in the room.</p>

<p>my meal plan does me well enough where i wouldnt need any food in the room. ive got my meals covered, as well as having cafe credits that i can use whenever i want at certain locations, one of which is in the basement of my dorm. also, my school does this thing called late night where the cafes open for like, midnight studying snacks - if ever i wanted to get that.</p>

<p>and honestly, i do not use the microwave much at all at home. i dont watch tv. im more into movies, which i'll use my lappy for, and i catch the news through the paper or the internet. a fridge, i can see where that wold come in handy, but even at home, we keep one of those bulk packs of bottled water out in the garage and i really truly do not mind drinking room temperature water. sooooo there. im done. i will go the year without my appliances, and im sure i'll be just fine.</p>

<p>and matt30, im going to u of i urbana champaign.</p>

<p>If you would have said in the beginning that you had a cafe in the basement of your dorm and that you don't even use those things at home, I'm sure you would have gotten a better response. You would of from me, at least.</p>

<p>yeah, well, like i said, its my fault for not clearing the grounds first. does it seem more reasonable now that i layed out my reasons? i mean, i shouldnt be expected to contribute to someone else's needs just bc im living in the same room with them. yes, i'll be negotiable about space and whatnot since im living in a triple, but yeahhh...and for the record matt30, i chose to live in a triple because i thought it'd be more interesting than a double. i didnt even know that the more ppl in a room was cheaper until i read the price chart thing.</p>

<p>and i thought that some things of mine, like my electric water boiler thing and a coffee maker were definitely sharable, and im def up for sharing them. so its not like im being a total selfish biatch either.</p>

<p>I highly doubt that those midnight snacks are very good for you, if you're going the healthy route. Plus it's bad to eat after 8 or 9 because of your metabolism and such... at least I have always heard that and it makes sense.
And Matt30, not all schools have community microwaves and it's not being a fat ass, but if you're working on a paper or something it's a lot quicker to turn around and put something in and keep working then walk around, go to another one, etc. And I do have a microwave and friedge, not in my room, but my house. And I don't know about you, but I prefer not to go to my neighbor's to heat something up. =)</p>

<p>Shoot, if I were your roommate I'd be more than happy if you brought the water boiler (coffee pot's nice, too, but the boiler's where it's at). We have one of those at home...sooo fast! Unfortunately, my dorm has a wattage limit and it's way over that :(</p>

<p>It seemed like at first you weren't bringing anything at all, but I get you now.</p>

<p>When I shared a room, we started out with a rented fridge that my roommate and I split the cost on and my roommate's tv and dvd player, which she said I was welcome to use but I never did because I never watch tv. I got a microwave for Christmas and brought it along because I got tired of the cafeteria food real quick. I'd say out of the 3 things the one you're most likely to use is the fridge, but even that never had much in it except for occasional drinks and leftovers. </p>

<p>I think it's perfectly reasonable to not want to buy things that you're never going to use just for the benefit of your roommates, but it seems like $50 is pretty much nothing to a lot of the posters here...hopefully your future roommate isn't like that as well or it could cause some misunderstandings.</p>

<p>fork it over for the microwave. Is it worth alienating your roomates?</p>

<p>This is not really connected, but I just saw a microwave in the Target ad for 30</p>

<p>Yeah, what the *<strong><em>. "I'm not going to be part of this community whether you like it or not. *</em></strong> off."</p>

<p>Nice introduction.</p>

<p>I would buy the microwave even if you don't plan on using it. A supportive and cooperative relationship with your roommate is worth thirty bucks. I'm sure she's already started to complain to her friends that she got stuck with "some weird girl who says she doesn't watch tv or eat popcorn." No matter your logical and personal reasoning, you just come off as an aloof and cheap. Désolé.</p>

<p>just buy the damn thing if $ isnt an issue. girls fight enough as it is, dont start off fighting.</p>

<p>I don't believe my college dorms have microwaves in the kitchens, and I would not want to leave food in the fringe because it might walk off. I, personally, use the microwave for a ton of stuff; re-heating leftovers, heating water, heat pads, frozen green beans... But if you really think you won't use it, don't get it. You can always go shopping mid-year if you change your mind.</p>

<p>"and matt30, im going to u of i urbana champaign."</p>

<p>Great school, I have a few friends over there and they love it. Hate their major (english) but love the school.</p>

<p>"A supportive and cooperative relationship with your roommate is worth thirty bucks."</p>

<p>It's not worth 30 bucks to me to appease some bossy inconsiderate girl just because she wants to eat TV dinners and not miss part of the show she's watching. </p>

<p>"No matter your logical and personal reasoning, you just come off as an aloof and cheap."</p>

<p>That sums up this thread well. No matter how much sense it makes to not buy something you'll never use, you should do it anyway because your bossy roommate wants her TV dinners.</p>

<p>thanks matt30. seems you're one of the few ppl who get me. and icant wait to get down to urbana! welllll i guess im done with this thread. tho its interesting how many ppl would just give in...i sent my roomie an email explaining myself and now im just waiting for her reply</p>

<p>it's not being bossy to ask your future roommate to chip in with something you assume everyone will use ... heh to be a fly on the wall the day jeparlefrancais suddenly has the need to stash something in the fridge...</p>

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<p>Make sure you post it here when she replies. I for one, cannot wait to see how that goes. What she responds will probably set the tone for the rest of the year.</p>

<p>Don't give in to the peer pressure -- don't buy a microwave.</p>

<p>My freshman year we had a TV we hardly ever used. My sophomore year we had a microwave and I saw it used twice year-round. Fridges are used a lot -- maybe get a coffee maker if you're into that.</p>

<p>If your roommate feels so strongly that you must have a microwave <em>in your room</em> then she can buy one when she gets there and keep it for the next decade. It doesn't matter.</p>

<p>A little exercise to the communal microwave never hurt anyone.</p>

<p>ok now to put this entire soap opera to an end...she wrote back!</p>

<p>she's been outof town lately so that's why she hasntbeen able to email me back, for one. and she said, "Oh and don't even apologize for anything it really doesn't bother me at all...it's just that i've been hearing from my
older brother and teammates that some of these things are
pretty crucial to have in your room and even if you think
you wont need them youll prolly end up wanting them. So it's
not a big deal that you're not bringing anything, i just
like to keep you guys informed and see what you guys wanted
and if you guys were planning on bringing any of it...but
really tho it's not a problem so honestly don't worry."</p>

<p>so there. end of story</p>

<p>"So there?" You're the dumbass who won't have a microwave.</p>

<p>what did you expect her to write? That it <em>does</em> bother her you aren't bringing the microwave. Most people wouldn't have the balls to say so just b/c she dosen't even know you yet. If I were in her shoes, I'd be ****ed off, but I wouldn't say anything about it. I can imagine what she's telling her friends. When you get to campus, I'm sure she will tell people that "that's my roomate, the one who was too damn cheap to get a microwave."</p>