<p>Okay, so, as the title says, I am having issues with my roommate.
We used to be in a triple and we all got along fine. Then one moved out. The remaining and I are not seeing eye-to-eye on anything.
She laid claim to the that left's bed, which is, if we split the room up, on my side of the room and the bottom of my bunk. If we don't have to be in a bunk, I don't see why we should, and having that bed effectively gives her possession of 2/3 to 3/4 of the room. If I put anything next to her bed, she moves it.<br>
My stuff is now stuck in a little corner. She gets mad at me because it's cluttered and I literally have nowhere else to put it. If anything of mine is even in a "neutral" part of the room she dumps it on the floor in my corner or on my computer keyboard.
I tried to talk to her about some of this and she started yelling at me about being messy. I am making every effort I can to be neat, and she has twice as much space to put stuff than I do.<br>
On top of this, she's being ridiculously uncooperative about splitting up costs. She told me that if I gave her some of the money for cable a day late (because I didn't have exact change and she didn't have it to give me) she paid the bill minus the fraction of my part of it and said if there's a late fee I'm paying, while there's stuff I've gotten that she hasn't paid for that she agreed to. She constantly talks about having no money so I feel guilty asking her.
Besides this, there's just a generally really tense atmosphere in the room. It's gotten so bad that we don't talk. I walk in and say hi and she looks at me and glares. I'm spending less time there because I can't handle being there with her.
I don't really know how to handle this -- it's my first situation of this kind. Generally I'm pretty bad at standing up for myself and I confrontation (especially when the air's so filled with tension you don't want to say a word) but I can't live like this. I'm going to bring it to the RA and I'm considering moving, though I'd really rather not have to go through that. Has anyone been in a similar situation? I realize I'm not perfect and there are things we're both doing that are bothering us but it seems almost like she's trying to drive me out.</p>
<p>Hiya... I'm currently in the same situation as well, although I live with 3 other roommates. One of them is from korea, just like me (but not as smart as me), and for some reason, he expects me to go to lunch with him and always hang out with him, which I don't like to do because I make friends carefully. And whenever we go hangout, he just tries to do whatever he wants, which is a hassel for a laid back guy like me because I don't want to waste money eating in a fancy restraunt every day. Anyways, one day we were watching the US open tennis, and he missed it. So he asked me what happened, and tired as i was being an engineer, just ignored him... And he got all psycho angry with me, saying that fellow koreans shouldn't ignore each other, and how he hates koreans who don't prefer to hangout with other koreans...(like i care if someone is from korea or not) And as tired as I was, i was like "fsck off," which then created a real tense atmosphere in the dorm. It's been like that for a few weeks now. But since we all know I am better than him (you are better than her), just swat it off like you would swat an annoying fly, becuase it's not worth it to worry about it.</p>
<p>talk to the RA. You've let this go on far too long. You're entitled to 1/2 the space in the room, and you should get it. You need to prepare a list of problems so that you, the RA, and the roomate can solve them. I see a few: paying bills & sharing space. </p>
<p>Overall this is a learning experience. You don't have to be friends with your roomate, but you do have to be able to share the space without being taken advantage of.</p>
<p>Thanks. I'm planning to talk to the RA (she wasn't in her room when I went before). It's weird, there were no problems at all until about a week and a half ago, when our other roommate moved out, and it just suddenly got like this.</p>
<p>We had a meeting with two RA's. One of us will have to move out.</p>
<p>well, let it be you. if she moves out it might appear like shes the victim and ure the big bad guy. you could pull a little sympathy moving out (: (:</p>
<p>I have friends on the floor and I'd kind of like to stay and avoid the hassle...but I do see what you mean. We shall see what happens.</p>
<p>you should push to have her move out because she's being *itchy, she shouldn't be rewarded with having a triple room to herself as a single. You may get sympathy, but chances are you'll also have to give up physical comforts like space</p>
<p>let her be the one that moves. Honestly, she could have been exactly that calculating and figured that if she made life miserable for you that you'd leave and she'd have the room to herself.</p>
<p>yeah that's what i'm thinking. i think i'll go to an RA now to see what the best way exactly to approach this would be.
i'm just getting way too stressed out to deal with this right now.</p>