<p>^ I agree with this.</p>
<p>bottom line a double is bad enough a triple is crazy. why schools do this is is beyond me.</p>
<p>Try living in a six, buddy. Sexiling becomes so complicated, we just give up.</p>
<p>why don’t people just get hotels? doesn’t he have a house, apartment, dorm?</p>
<p>Because getting a hotel just to have an hour or so alone is pointless and a waste.</p>
<p>in this case it was more than an hour and that was what I was talking about.</p>
<p>Seems like it was three nights.</p>
<p>You said “people” so I assumed you meant in general :rolleyes:</p>
<p>No I meant those who plan to have nights together, and this was Friday she said? They could’ve just gotten a motel or something especially since she has TWO roommates.</p>
<p>imho</p>
<p>I’d say it’s still better to go to Motel Six than inconvenience TWO other people who want go to in THEIR room. If my roommate had told me not to go in our room, I would have had words for her. Wait until you’re old enough to live in an apartment!</p>
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Exactly… Old enough to do all that all, so can’t you afford a motel out of respect?</p>
<p>The OP should say how she feels because this girl will do it again knowing she got away with it once.</p>
<p>ML, like I said, I very much disagree with what the roommate did but I think it’s reasonable to work out a little time for privacy. Adults should be able to compromise imo</p>
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<p>Lets be honest the only time people want privacy in their room is for sex.</p>
<p>ILB, very much not true. My roommate is a virgin and sometimes just wanted privacy. I gave her that. We have happily lived together for three years and still living together.</p>
<p>Was it the kind of privacy where you couldn’t even enter the room until whatever was being done was done for hours at a time?</p>
<p>Sigh. It was the type of privacy where I stayed away for about an hour and I asked her if it was ok to come back. </p>
<p>For the last time, I do NOT approve of kicking out roommates for hours or without warning or without approval. I DO approve of being allowed some alone time provided it is reasonable and agreed upon beforehand.</p>
<p>Sexiling in college is pretty uh… common? But I agree there should’ve been a hint of the possibility.</p>
<p>The way I’ve always worked it is to know my roommate’s/SO’s roommate’s schedule to some extent, so we can take advantage of when they’re in class/at a club meeting/working/whatever and then send a text asking for a 10 minute warning if they are going to come back. Unless all your roommate does is sit in the room and play video games or something (which my ex’s kinda did but he was nice enough to just take his laptop and play in the lounge for hours 
) working with each other’s schedules should work out fine to get the private time you need, whether with a significant other or alone.</p>
<p>Your roommate cannot say “don’t come back”, as everyone has said, it is your room too. The roommate can REQUEST that you not come back, and it’s up to you whether or not you can honor that respect. If you need sleep, bang on the door and tell them to finish up so you can sleep. But if you have no reason to need to be in your room, y’know, let 'em have their fun :)</p>
<p>Bottom line is that it is not okay.</p>
<p>I’d say time to work out an arrangement. Perhaps for every hour she wants the room without you guys, each of you gets an hour alone in the room too (to simply be alone, if that’s all you want). Or something along those lines.</p>
<p>Or, she’s the only one who wants alone time but you all agree to limit it to an hour at a time with lots of warning, or at a time that you will be at dinner or a meeting or whatever anyway…details are up to you but right now it sounds like you are getting resentful and she is doing what she wants but maybe wondering why you seem angry and the third roommate - who knows?</p>
<p>Time to clear the air and make some agreements you can all live with. She’s put out there what SHE wants, you can also put out there what YOU want. And find a middle.</p>