<p>Hmmm. I’m not sure I believe this scenario is real, although I guess it could be.</p>
<p>As a parent, I have to tell you that if one of my daughter’s freshman roommates wanted to do this, I’d be pretty angry. Really, he has to come and stay with you the first few days of school? It’s a bad idea for lots of reasons. Also, if this is really true, tell the mom who paid for the airline tickets that you need a few more bucks for a hotel room.</p>
<p>As a parent, I would not send my child to go sleep over with their boy/girlfriend of 18 in their dorm room. If I sprang for the plane tickets I would pay for appropriate housing (hotel, motel, B&B, hostel, whatever). I would not want my child sleeping overnight in a car either. </p>
<p>I was, too, wondering why a parent would buy surprise plane tickets without thinking about where her kid would stay…</p>
<p>OP - do you know any upperclassman boys that could give him a couch in their suite? Since they would already know their roommates, having a guest wouldn’t be a big deal. Maybe you could advertise on the school’s electronic bulletin board? Something about paying a few bucks for him to sleep on a couch. Maybe in an off-campus apartment. </p>
<p>As a parent, I would say “no no no”, for many reasons, but these concerns to a young couple who are desperate to see each other, so much that they would pick this time, and the boy is willing to sleep in a car may not make a difference in their decision. I don’t condone it, but I can see why a young couple would not have a parent’s perspective. Apparently, the mother who bought the plane tickets doesn’t either. </p>
<p>As a parent I would have to agree with the above posters. I think it is big imposition for your roommates that have not even met you yet and are just beginning college to have to deal with having your boyfriend on hand and I can see this situation getting off to a poor start. I think it is incredibly rude for the boyfriend’s mother to purchase tickets on the assumption that this is a fine plan. On top of all of this… it is going to be a problem for the OP as well. I am under the assumption that part of these days include orientation events, meetings, social activities, club sign-ups and possibly placement tests and advisor meetings that are important. Will you be dragging your boyfriend around to these events or skipping them? That to me is starting college off on the wrong foot. I would be very unhappy if either of my d’s had suggested such a scenario.</p>
<p>“The point is, it is a “GUY” wanting to stay in their quarters for 5 days, and they are all females. It is definitely not okay.”</p>
<p>^^^This.</p>
<p>Uhh there’s a reason why dorms have separate wings for men & women…If all of you were long-time friends, I’m sure you could work something out. But since you’re barely meeting, this sounds uncomfortable for the other girls.</p>
<p>If I were in the other girl’s place & my parents found out, they’d make me find new living arrangements lol</p>
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Not all dorms have separate wings for men and women. I lived directly next to and shared bathrooms with men all my years in a dorm. </p>
<p>I’m clearly in the minority here, but I think your roommate is being very unreasonable. If she were a hijabi or otherwise orthodox in her religious practices, that would be understandable. If you were sharing a room with her and he would be in the room as well, I could see more reason for objection. But he’ll be in a different room, and I can’t see any reason for someone to have a problem with what’s going on or who is in a room entirely separate from their own, unless there’s something really crazy afoot. I know that some people find co-ed bathrooms uncomfortable, but outside of prudishness, I can’t imagine why. Especially if it’s already decided that he’ll use the bathroom at off-peak times.</p>
<p>How much has OP discussed the issue with the roommate? Is she aware that the other people in the suite have agreed? Has she given the reasons for her objections?</p>
<p>I hardly think my parents are libertines, and neither one ever cared in the least who stayed in the other rooms in my suite. Honestly, there were often visitors in the suite I was completely unaware of. You might pass them in the kitchen or bathroom, but you don’t see them much.</p>
<p>Anyway, if the roommate is insistent, I would try finding rooming for your boyfriend with a boy in your dorm. If that’s not a possibility, rebook the tickets.</p>