<p>So I am rooming with my best friend from home and we are great together - no problems at all. We live in a room where there is a backside with a window and a font side. Everyone wants the backside in these rooms and I had agreed with her hat if I get the backside first semester we can switch second semester. I </p>
<p>never realized how hard it would be and how much stuff I have on my side of the room.... She is never in the room because her boyfriend lives on the floor below us so she is always in there.. she sleeps in there every night, does her homework in there, etc. She only is on her side of the room when she gets ready for class in the morning and when she gets ready for bed after her shower. </p>
<p>When she asks to switch sides, I really want to say no. I feel bad going back on my word but I want to tell her that I didn't realize how much stuff I have and how hard it would be and that she is also never in the room. How do I tell her that in a nice way without sounding like a jerk?</p>
<p>Last year she never slept in her own room, she always went to her boyfriend's building to sleep there, so whether she has the backside or not, it won't change anything especially where she sleeps.</p>
<p>It’s possible that she spends so many nights with her boyfriend because she doesn’t like sleeping on her side of the room. She may sleep in your room more (or start to stay in this room more) when she has the good side.</p>
<p>In my opinion, you should honor your agreement and switch sides regardless of how difficult it is. How would you feel if the situation was reversed–if she had the good side for the first semester and then refused to switch sides second semester because it was “too hard”? It’ll take a couple of hours, and then you’ll be done and won’t have to move again. Next time, don’t make a promise you aren’t willing to keep.</p>
<p>baktrax is right…also, just think about it this way. What is more important, which side of the room your bed is on, or your friend?</p>
<p>Also, think about how considerate your roomie is being. You are not being kicked out of your room on a consistent basis just so your roomie and her boyfriend can have some private time. If you refuse to change sides in accordance with your agreement with her, I wouldn’t be surprised if that situation changed.</p>
<p>All this being said, how about just outright asking her if you guys could just keep the same sides of the room, assuring her of no hurt feelings (and meaning it) if she says she still wants to switch.</p>
<p>Maybe she won’t ask to switch back. But if she does, it is totally out of line to refuse. Persuasion is another thing. Or making it worth her while.</p>