This is out of control. I can’t believe this girl(OP’s roommate)! I hope everything gets sorted out soon and you can have a good college experience
If you feel your physical safety is threatened, then I would go to Campus Police and show the video.
If you don’t feel your physical safety is threatened, then live out the week (with your most valuable posessions secured) and then ask to be moved.
That’s what they get paid for. Don’t feel bad, and don’t give up until you get another roommate. They just want to get the situation sorted out with the least amount of effort on their part.
If the least amount of effort involves hoping you’ll pipe down and go away, then they’ll certainly follow that route. Don’t let them. Make the least amount of effort for them involve getting you happily situated. Focus on pushing them to resolve the issue as soon as possible with the outcome you’re looking for, and be as positive as possible about the resolution when talking to them, while being very clear that nothing less than the roommate being gone is what is acceptable.
^ The above is good advice and will be a skill you will find useful throughout life.
^^Once the vice principal of the middle school saw me coming toward him and literally hid behind a stack of tables in the cafeteria. I found him anyway. B-) He was really hoping I’d go away. Nope. I made him fix what he’d screwed up (forgetting to add a robotics team to honors night).
It’s just how most people are.
It’s up to you, OP, to push hard. You can do it!
“Once the vice principal of the middle school saw me coming toward him and literally hid behind a stack of tables in the cafeteria” =)) Beware the Dragon Mom.
I think it the other way…that they are not doing their job at all.
You should always ask yourself: Is this a battle worthy to fight? In your case, Yes.
Have I gone through the heirarchy properly? Yes.
Then keep up the fight…not just for you but for future students.
@jackieb45 Has it gotten any better?
I read about this thread in another thread, so had to come over and take a look. OP, you have gotten wonderful advice. I know OP hasn’t checked back in since Aug 12, so I do hope she comes back and updates us.
I am impressed with her taking charge of the situation and going over the head of the useless RA and RA’s boss. I don’t see why OP has to be the one to teach the Sorority Snowflake to share; let that be the job of one of her sorority snowflakes next year.
I would also like to know what college/university this is.
OP, I hope things are working out for you. I would not worry about what other people think of your choice to move. I lived a whole semester with someone who was a lot like your roommate. She did not take over the closets and dresser, but perhaps if I had not arrived first she would have. A series of selfish, rude, and aggravating behavior on her part contributed to a poor adjustment for me to college life. When I finally returned one day so that the furniture was arranged so that she had allocated most of the space to herself and I could barely get to my bed without tripping, I got really mad. Up until then I probably seethed in silence. I don’t remember now if she moved the stuff back right away or not, and an unpleasant visit to the RA and dorm head was involved. I probably got the housing folks to move me within a week after that. Well worth it to have a much more pleasant second semester. My only regret - waiting so long to insist on a change.
BTW, somewhere in the housing description most colleges will say that you get a bed, a dresser, a desk, a closet etc. for each student. For example, I have copied the current policy at my alma mater below.
“Student rooms have an extra-long twin bed, desk, desk chair, desk lamp, bureau or wardrobe, and wastebasket for each occupant.”
The op’s college was likely breaching its own policy.
What kind of process did you go thru to get matched up with her? Did you pick her as your roommate or just randomly assigned? Did you not correspond at all before actually getting to school? Just wondering.
Hi guys, sorry for the absence but stuff happened and I’ve been busy resolving it. I walked in the other day to the room to find her going through my stuff. I confronted her and she went off the deep end and threw some things at me. I left, called campus security, and have filed a police report. My roommate has been suspended until the pending investigation has occurred. I was called into the office with the dean of students and we discussed what had happened and the procedures I went through. Even if she returns to campus we will not be roomates and because of this terrible situation, I have been given a single room, in the nicest hall, at the rate of the double in the old hall. Oh yeah, and my RA got fired. So, tada! Here’s the end of my roommate from hell.
Oh my! what a nightmare for you but you’ve handled it with aplomb. Good riddance to the girl. Hope she’s gone permanently. Sounds to me like you’ve done the school a huge favor by ferreting out a whack job early. I’m glad the school stepped up and fired the RA. They should have done the same with the HD, too.
Hope its all uphill from here!
Wow, that’s surreal. Glad it worked out for you!
Yes! Great news for you. Keep going and have a great freshman year!
As an RA, I am so sorry this happened to you! Despite ResLife’s massive early shortcomings in this case, I’m glad they’ve finally come through with an awesome room upgrade I hope your freshman year goes well!
Damn, that’s ridiculous. Sorry that you had to put up with her for any amount of time.
Anyways, I’m glad that you’ll be able to move on from it now. Have a good rest of your freshman year.
Woohooo! Justice served. Now enjoy your year and you have a good story for a conversation starter
I, too, think that you handled the situation extremely well. May I suggest that you consider applying for an RA position next year? You seem like the type of person who would excel and you could probably get free room. My daughter received free room and an allowance towards her meal plan as an RA.
Good luck and some day, this will all seem funny.
Yay! This makes me feel so good to hear, OP, and I bet a lot of others on this thread feel the same. Congratulations!