@jackieb45 How did the RA and HD respond on follow-up and moving the stuff? Were they at all apologetic for their initial mishandling of the situation?
Not really. I brought them the note and they got a bit huffy when they had to come with me. They didn’t apologize and just said it was girl drama whilst playing on their phones as I moved and pushed her stuff around. They said they were glad it was over and left. It’s not over though, I know it’s not.
another reason to request a new roommate - and a new floor at least. [-(
@Rollout, psychosis is a little more different than OCD. I don’t want people misusing the word “psychotic” to describe somebody when they’re going off like that, because when they hear that my son is occasionally psychotic, they’ll picture him like that, when it is a very inaccurate description. My daughter and I spend a lot of time speaking all over the state to educate people about mental illness, and it’s an uphill battle.
@jackieb45, I appreciate your apology. 
Possibly. I really want to stick it out with this girl because I don’t want to be known as the whiny freshman that complains about everything.
It’s not whiney when your problem is legitimate.
Girl. No one is going to care that you moved rooms because your roommate was being unreasonable. No one is going to give it a second thought or pigeonhole you like that. Do what is best for you and switch rooms - preferably buildings so you’re away from your current RA and HD.
They want me to give it a week. I’ll just dedicate a post a day here to my roommate and the crazy that she pulls to decompress and so I can keep my sanity. I mean, she says some funny things.
I think your daily posts will help us all unwind!
I wouldn’t give it a week. They’re hoping you’ll go away. The mature thing is to state what you want, calmly and clearly, and not go away until you get what you’re paying for. Tantrums so bad you have to videotape them are not what you’re paying for. Sticking it out doesn’t help you, and your RA and HD have shown once again they won’t take you seriously. If I were you, I’d formally request a dirm change immediately. And keep your parents informed about what’s happening.
Have you gotten back in touch with the head of ResLife? He was on your side, right?
Exactly. This isn’t just two roommmates not getting along, this is an inhospitable environment for you and has been that way since day 1. They shouldn’t be making you wait a week because it’s not going to improve in a week. Something like this would so not fly with residence life at my school.
Yeah, the head of res life needs to know about the temper tantrum.
You’re in college. You have a right to not live with a four year old and it sounds like your roommate is trying her hardest to be one. You have a recording of her throwing a tantrum because she had to share, now you need to use it. Escalate this up to the residence life director and demand a room change. Flat out say that you do not feel safe in the room if this is how she reacts to minor situations.
Yes, RL Head is aware and on my side. He made my RA and HD supervise as I moved her stuff so I could move in. They are saying that they don’t do roommate changes for a week to make sure that we are truly incompatible before going through the trouble. I have emailed the RL Head and have another meeting tomorrow. I hate being a thorn in their side, I kind of wish my parents weren’t out of country now.
Please keep us updated, we’re all rooting for you. Also be aware that your RA and HD sound horrible and this is definitely not normal. You’re doing everything right and don’t feel like you’re a thorn in their side-- it’s literally what their job is. I mean, some players here seem better at it than others, but still. I would explain that you understand the reasoning behind waiting a week but that this is not a case of incompatibility; rather, you feel unsafe in your room.
You need to contact the Director of Residence Life and show him the video. You need to tell him that you do not feel safe to stay in that room. If she begins to have another tantrum , video her again and call campus security . She clearly is unstable , and there is not a reasonable reason for you to live with her for a week.
When I say RL Head, I mean the director. I’ve been speaking to the director. Just using the wrong word I guess.
I’m sorry you have to go through this, especially so early in your college experience.
If it makes you feel better, you’re going to have some great stories to tell your friends when you’re back home.
Please keep us updated. She sounds unstable. It’s good that you are advocating for a room change. Please do what you can to keep yourself safe. Remind them that if anything happens to you they have been warned that you did not feel safe and they will be held liable.