So everything was fine and dandy with my roommates( we have a apartment style dorm with 4 rooms, 2 bath and shared kitchen and living area) until a few days ago when one of my roommates said she had her 2 close friends attending the college as well and was wondering if 2 of us could switch with her friends so they could stay together. My other 2 roommates replied first and the switch was finalized.
I’m extremely anxious now, as I’m in suite with 3 close friends and I don’t know a single person at the college. I feel like I’ll be an outsider…I know that roommates don’t have to be your best friends, but I’d like to at least be able to talk to these people. I’m just really scared that I won’t be able to find friends…I emailed my housing office and asked if there was any way to request a change for me as well but I’m not counting on anything( as all of the housing options are already filled).
Does anyone have any advice on this situation or how to try and make friends with a group of already established friends?
I would switch if that is an option. I find it telling that your future roommate wanted every else to change plans rather than being the one to move since it was her friends. Not really a good sign.
However, when best friends live together they often find out that while they are best friends that they can’t live together and remain best friends. So becoming friends with one of the three might not be as difficult as you think.
Is there a housing Facebook page for your school? If so, you could ask there if someone wants a room in your dorm. Your best chance of moving is likely to be a situation where you end up changing dorm rooms with someone who wants to be in your building or area of campus. The downside is that you might find yourself in a “less desirable” dorm or maybe with a roommate rather than a private bedroom. That’s not necessarily a bad thing.
If you aren’t able to switch, I’ll agree with @noname87 that three is a difficult number for a relationship and becoming friends with one of these three is entirely possible. While roommate #1 seems a bit thoughtless and insecure, it may be that her two “close” friends are nothing more than acquaintances, or it may be that one or both of them actually want to break away from their high school crowd (but are unsure of how to say so).
My school is super small so it doesn’t have a facebook page( which sucks but what can you do). I also emailed my schools housing and unfortunately all of the rooms are full so there isn’t much I can do at this point in terms of actually moving out of the situation other than moving off campus( which I can’t afford lol).
Hopefully that’s the case and I can at least be friendly with the group. I know it’s unrealistic to expect to be best friends with your roommates( especially freshman year)but I don’t want to hate my time there.
Anyway, thank you! I really appreciate the advice!
You can make a FB group for the freshman class at your school if there isn’t one.