<p>So I've been looking for a roommate for my freshman year next year, and I'm pretty nervous about finding someone that I can really get along with. I took a roommate quiz through FB and got matched with this girl, and we talked for a good amount of time and seemed to get along. The only problem (not necessarily a problem, but I'm not sure how I feel about it) is that she will be playing a fall sport for the school and I won't be playing any sports. Obviously fall sports start right at the beginning of the year-is it a good idea to be roommates with her? Some people have told me it will be a good connection to the upperclassmen, but I'm just nervous that she'll be with the sports team and we won't connect. Any thoughts or opinions greatly appreciated :)</p>
<p>help please!</p>
<p>I don’t understand what the problem is. She’s playing a sport, you aren’t, and… what, exactly?</p>
<p>If you’re worried that you won’t be as close with her as someone who isn’t playing a sport, well, that’s silly. For one, it’s okay (and perfectly plausible) for people to be friends despite having different interests and despite being involved in different activities. Second of all, you don’t have to be best friends with your roommate or even really “connect” on whatever level you want to connect on. It’s okay to have friends that aren’t your roommate, and sometimes, it’s easier to room with someone who isn’t your best friend. Also, regardless of whether you roommate plays sports or not, you might not want to go into this depending on your roommate to help you get a social circle. It’s possible for you to not click with anyone, regardless of what activities they’re involved in.</p>
<p>So, sorry. I just don’t understand what the issue is.</p>
<p>Having an athlete roommate is great - they are always gone on trips, so you have the dorm to yourself!</p>
<p>The down side is that they often bond with and are off with their team all the time. They often start practice early (before you move in), so your roommate is settled in when you get there and already has friends. Depends on what you want from a roommate… that might be fine for you. If you confident you can make additional friends in your dorm and in clubs and classes, then go ahead. And you could do worse…</p>
<p>My roommate plays a sport, I don’t play sports and we have no problems. I don’t understand the problem lol.</p>
<p>Well I guess if I really think about it, there isn’t much of a problem. I wanted a roommate that I could be really close friends with, mostly cuz I’ve heard awful stories of roommates that aren’t friends and it’s just awkward. But obviously I could make other friends. Thanks for the feedback!</p>
<p>The options between roommates don’t have to be really close friends or awkward. There’s a whole range of relationships you could have with a new roommate that aren’t either of those. You typically hear stories about awful roommates because those are the times when there is a story to tell. You rarely ever hear stories about roommates who get along fine but have their own groups of friends or chat when they’re both in the room but rarely do hang out or do anything else. You can have a great roommate and still not be particularly close them them. That’s perfectly okay.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t worry about it. You guys seem to get along well enough, and you could be great friends even if she does play a sport (athletes DO have friends who don’t play a sport, believe it or not). Or you guys could just be friendly but not spend a lot of time together. That’s okay too. What matters is that you two can get along well enough to share a living space.</p>
<p>They also have to get up early to practice so if you’re a light sleeper, beware of that.</p>
<p>^Ditto. In my freshman triple, there were two athletes, myself and one roommate. The roommate had trouble getting up, and would leave her loud alarm blaring for several snooze cycles before she got up. If the roommate can be quiet getting to morning practice, there should be no trouble, but if their alarm is going off for a while, or if they will be making lots of noise getting dressed, it might drive a wedge between you.</p>
<p>Most of the people i know on my floor aren’t really close friends with their roommates. But we all do get along pretty well, and we all do have the opportunity to do fun stuff together. You don’t have to be best friends to enjoy each other’s company.</p>
<p>These all are very good points that I guess I didn’t really think about. I am a light sleeper but I don’t sleep too late anyways. I’m just so nervous to go to college, I guess I’m just overthinking absolutely EVERYTHING.</p>
<p>Yea, don’t worry. I was the same way lol. Everything turned out fine for me.</p>
<p>Overthinking and feeling anxious are normal! Definately agree that people with different interests can become great friends. Having said that, I don’t think your qualms about having a fall athlete/freshman roommate are silly or totally unfounded.</p>
<p>I’m a fall term athlete and I and most of my teammates definitely had no problem making friends outside of the team, or getting along with roommates. I was really close with my freshman floor, despite being gone or busy most afternoons/weekends during the fall. Most of my teammates also got along fine with their freshman roommates (A few still live together even as seniors!). I wouldn’t worry about it.</p>
<p>Thanks so much guys. I think you all have convinced me that it’s no big deal lol, I def appreciate it</p>