<p>Sorry, Cal, I disagree. It’s not about what the daughter thinks of the roommate-- it’s about what the rm’s mom has done, apparently with some input from the rm. I consider it unhealthy to allow this sort of person access to my life and I know I’ve passed on that kind of common sense to my kids.</p>
<p>I haven’t read more into the situation. This woman went to dorm officials about the op’s kid-- even after she was told it was being handled. Like I said, it’s gossip at best and slander at worst. I would put an absolute stop to this woman contacting me-- and I would encourage my daughter to get away from the nuts. I think your plan-- which allows this family continued access (an access they’ve abused)-- is allowing all sorts of drama in your life. Then again, I lived with nutty roommates and, if they’re truly nutty, it doesn’t get better. Part of growing up is knowing when to walk away.</p>
<p>Anyway, to each his own. I don’t agree with you (and think it’s rather rude of you to call me over-involved or meddlesome when I’m not) but it’s a little hard to even fathom being in this situation; it’s so over-the-top.</p>