<p>I agree with much you say calmom - throughout this whole story involving he said/she said, we have to remember the daughter who is being advised to move out hasn’t even been heard from yet. She most likely has no idea that all this stuff is going on behind her back. I will say that the OP should be prepared to take some grief from her daughter when the daughter learns all these people have been talking about her behind her back. I would be HUMILIATED if I found out people were speculating and conspiring over me with no idea that it was going on. I feel bad for the OP’s daughter, regardless of how it turns out, because in the end, she will probably feel betrayed whether she and the roommate have an unspoken style of compromise, or not. If they do continue to be roommates, several people are going to have to earn back their trust (which doesn’t have to include the RM’s mom - she’s just wacky, and the broken record can take care of that) with this girl.</p>