<p>2collegewego, I did not call you over-involved or meddlesome; I said the response you advocated would be overinvolvement & meddling. </p>
<p>There is a difference between labeling people and labeling actions or behavior. YOU aren’t involved in this directly at all, so you haven’t done anything one way or another except express an opinion – there is no cause to “call” you anything. </p>
<p>Similarly, I would not be inclined to resolve this situation by deciding to label both the roommate and her mom as “nuts” and insisting that my kid get away from “the nuts.” The RM-mom seems to be a problem; there is no evidence whatsoever that the RM herself has any personality problem or is engage in any inappropriate conduct. Hanging out with her bf all the time is pretty typical for a college student; unfortunately, so is lying to parents about it.</p>
<p>I’m sure if WCD has a problem with the RM, she can figure that out without her mom now adding to her problems by insisting she apply for a room change because the mom does not like the RM’s mom’s behavior – which is what it would come down to.</p>