<p>Dear All - thank you for your suggestions. My D now knows all the particulars. </p>
<p>My D realizes her roommate used her as a “red herring” to deflect RM’s mother’s focus on her boyfriend. She is extremely disappointed in her roommate who was part of a core group of friends. Most of the friends have met RM’s mom and characterize her as crazy. </p>
<p>My D said for RM’s mom to call the school and make unfounded accusations and statements based on RM’s information was a big shock. Her RM has stated she was just venting and she never thought her mom would take her so seriously. She denies that she ever implied or stated my D was depressed.</p>
<p>Both my D and her RM met with the RC separately and together. The RC told them the issue was one of communication and that the RM needed to communicate to her roommate instead of her mom.</p>
<p>My D stated her roommate is no longer her friend, but she will treat her as a casual acquaintance. My D says her RM is rarely in the room and she can’t remember the last time her RM even spent a night in the room. At this point she thinks she will see even less of the RM.</p>
<p>My D has asked me to forward any email if the RM’s mom contacts me again. She plans to arrange a meeting with the RC as witness to tell the RM that her mom’s interference needs to stop.</p>
<p>It’s always sad to find out that someone you thought was a friend is not.</p>