<p>deerfield
andover
exeter
choate
hotchkiss?</p>
<p>i’ve heard that deerfield’s really cliquey but others have told me the opposite… apparently andover’s not that cliquey and exeter has cliques for sure, but i heard that it isn’t as bad now as it was at the beginning of the year (??)</p>
<p>just what i’ve heard, don’t mean to upset anyone!</p>
<p>How about Schools with the least? Thacher falls into that category.</p>
<p>Yeah exeter isn’t really as bad with the cliques as at the beginning of the year. They’re still there for sure but a lot of people have friends in different groups and stuff and people aren’t clinging to the people they knew from the beginning of the year as much if that makes sense.</p>
<p>bump…</p>
<p>BUMP…
anymore thoughts on deerfields cliques?</p>
<p>What does BUMP mean?? Haha I feel so out of it…</p>
<p>LOL futureboarder, when people “BUMP” threads, they post on it so it appears as a New Post on the Prep School Admissions page so more people see it. :)</p>
<p>Haha ok thanks ;)</p>
<p>Also, BUMP also stands for:</p>
<p>Bring
Up
My
Post</p>
<p>Same thing really. (:</p>
<p>Any one from Deerfield? student/teacher/parent?
I want to hear how you feel about your school names as the one with most cliques.</p>
<p>I don’t think any place with cliques is healthy. (Maybe I misunderstood what clique means. (not native… looked at the dictionary) The healthy place is more open and doesn’t have blocks between people due to race or whatsoever… it will be natural for teens to make groups with their interests (sports team/club). However, if you find a club(sports team) is composed with a certain kind of kids… it can be problematic.</p>
<p>Having a son with a similar situation in local (during elementary/early middle)… like during recess, kids made up teams on spot. his soccer team only with two boys (my s and his best friend - both asian)
used to play against a team with around 10 kids (most of white). Sometimes his team even won… he was very proud. It was painful as a parent to see how your kid go through this kind of things… my son luckily was not that sensitive like me on this issue. </p>
<p>What I am worried about… is that in local we had enough time to get to know each other… for 4,5,6 grades… it was the hardest time… but he was ok with his group… and he became famous for his math and music, which changes other people’s view on him. later on it doesn’t bother him much since he has very high self-esteem. (bad sides… he (only sometimes) looks down those guys.)
But if he joins DA as a 10th grade, he won’t have enough long period time to adjust… or to prove himself… will be very busy with his academic.
I am not sure if he can thrive in DA with most cliques.</p>
<p>Hope to find out more during revisit.</p>
<p>My opinion is that Deerfield is no more cliquey than any other high school. Actually, with sit-down meals, where one must sit at an assigned table, you will see less of cliques than you will found at most other schools where cliques tend to eat together. There are always group that hang out together at any school, so I really don’t know how DA can be considered more cliquey. Perhaps it’s a perceived legacy from when it was all boys. Some girls today believe there’s still a male dominant culture at the school.</p>
<p>Here are articles/opinions from the school newspaper:
[DA’s</a> Gender Issues: Where The Fault Lies|The Scroll](<a href=“http://scroll.deerfield.edu/?p=452]DA’s”>http://scroll.deerfield.edu/?p=452)
[Alternate</a> Study Leads in Addressing Gender Issues on Campus|The Scroll](<a href=“http://scroll.deerfield.edu/?p=399]Alternate”>http://scroll.deerfield.edu/?p=399)</p>
<p>It’s interesting with a woman head of school that DA would still be struggling with a “male dominant culture.” Surely, the strong women leaders at the school along with the students from both genders who rally for equality, can turn this around, no doubt.</p>