<p>No practical advice to offer, but just wanted to send {{{hugs}}} as I can hear the frustration in your postings. It must be so hard to be a parent of a ‘difficult’ child who needs help, but won’t or can’t respond to your efforts to help. You sound burnt out. I’ve watched a friend go through this with her daughter. The thing that struck me is how no matter how awful her daughter was to her, or how resistant to help, the mother just stuck by her daughter year after year, not taking her daughter’s rejection personally. Taking her medication was a huge issue, because after a certain point, a parent can’t ‘make’ a kid be compliant. I know it was incredibly difficult for them to live in the same house and things between them were better once they got some space from each other. Good luck.</p>
<p>Sorry you are going through this. Agree that probably a LOA is in order. The stress on your s, especially with his MH vulnerabilities, to pull the grades up, is probably not worth the risk.</p>
<p>Cw: I think you need to let him work it out. Dont take this personally but I remember you being highly involved and opinionated about his potential schools. If he is ever going to be his own man, he is going to have to learn to battle through adversity. </p>
<p>I think the idea of dropping a class or two is a good one. He should stick it out and try to pass the rest. He has about a 3.0 from his first semester. Even if he gets all Ds this semester he will still be in good standing (i.e. 2.0 or above keeps you off academic probation). Even if he fails, he will have an opportunity to recover. </p>
<p>I can speak from experience. My first semester in college I stayed out too late and missed a lot of class. I was failing 3 of my 6 classes at the mid-term. Let me tell you, I was stressed out too! If my parents suggested I withdraw and invited me home I may have taken them up on it. I toughed it out an passed everything but my grades were bad. I was put on academic probation. The following semester I was motivated to stay out of that situation and I did. I ended up graduating on schedule and learned from the experience. A person’s reaction to adversity is what will define him. I suggest that you encourage him to battle it out. He doesnt need to get great grades. He could drop to 12 credits and work to at least pass. </p>
<p>Please note, this advice is given with the assumption that he is not suffering from sever mental problems.</p>