<p>Sorry for the long post. My S is a struggling freshman. He was diagnosed with learning disabilities (ADHD, reading disability) in preschool and spent k-12 in supportive learning environments. For high school, he went to a boarding school that had a dual program. He took some LD classes and some regular. We thought boarding school would better prepare him to be on his own in college. He finished with a 3.2 and got a 24 on the ACT. </p>
<p>After visiting many colleges, he enrolled in a small (< 2000 students ) college with a reputation for good learning support. We could have sent him to a place like Curry or Landmark, but after 13 years of a lot of cosseting, he felt ready to move forward, and H and I thought that it was time for him to be in a more challenging educational environment. He's planning to study music. (H is a successful composer who teaches, too, so music doesn't seem wildly impractical to us.) </p>
<p>S and I met with the college learning specialist during orientation, with the understanding that he would see her again once school started for a weekly appointment. </p>
<p>He never saw her. (Organization is his most difficult issue.) Before midterm grades came, he had to drop music theory because he didn't know that the class had two parts he had to attend (1. theory 2. aural skills) and he never went to part 2. Okay, we thought, he made a foolish but honest mistake. </p>
<p>Then midterm grades arrived. He is on his way to failing three courses. H and I said, time to step up. See the learning specialist. Speak with your teachers. This was last Sunday.</p>
<p>I spoke to him today. He's talked to two of the three teachers. One told him he has to withdraw from her course, too, or he'll fail. One teacher is allowing him to hand in late work. The other ???? We don't know because he hasn't contacted her. And he still hasn't seen the learning specialist.</p>
<p>He could withdraw from the semester by Tuesday. We'd lose the money but he wouldn't have a god-awful transcript dogging him. He doesn't want to do this. He says he can fix it, but he has no real plan as to how. (That organization thing again.) I don't think the work is too hard for him - he has a B- test average in Spanish, for instance, but he hasn't submitted his homework assignments. (The Spanish teacher likes him and is being patient.) </p>
<p>H is inclined to believe he can pull things together, but I don't see it happening. Withdraw? Let him fail?</p>