<p>Okay so I am a freshman girl and I have been at college for about a week. On my first Saturday night here, I had sex with a senior guy on the lacrosse team. We met at a party at the house he lives in with a few of the other guys on the lacrosse team, and I was really drunk, and loving the attention from a hot senior guy, and our personalities really clicked, and so it happened. I know this is totally what every freshman girl is warned not to do by everyone prior to leaving for college but oh well, it was what I wanted to do. Anyways, while I was there at his house with him, he said a lot of stuff to me about how he was really attracted to me, and he wants my number, and to see me again, and "next time", but both of our phones were dead so we couldn't exchange numbers before I had to leave. What I am asking is that if I were to go to a party at his house again, is there a high chance that we'd hook up again or does he see it as nothing more than a one night kinda thing and was just saying that stuff? I</p>
<p>I think he may see you as easy sex and would probably hook up with you again given the chance. many people in college have sex buddies and if you really like the idea of having a sex buddy that should be ok but you would have to work hard to turn that into a relationship which would most likely be short term given his senior status he will be leaving unless he comes back for a graduate degree and really wants it to last longer. It’s up to you.</p>
<p>Yeah, he was definitely just saying that stuff. You’d probably hook up again if you went there, since he probably thinks you’re an easy lay and would pick the easy girl over someone he has to work to get in bed. Let me be frank: either he doesn’t want your number, and wouldn’t bring it up if your phones weren’t dead, or he wants your number so that he can have a booty call. Either way, he’s thinking you’re a great distraction until he finds a girl he’s really into and wants a relationship with.</p>
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He meant what he said, but he didn’t say anything significant. </p>
<p>If your phones were dead, were there no pens or paper anywhere to be found? If he really wanted your number and wanted to pursue this, I think he would have found a way. Don’t get your hopes up for a serious relationship even if you do hook up at a party again.</p>
<p>Okay my first concern was pregnancy and STD’s.<br>
Don’t people think about that anymore?<br>
You’re posting on a site that talks about college admission and your first concern is, not about school, but about some horn dog that knew the right things to say to you?
Now, you want to go back to give him more, and probably his friends too?
While I was in grad school, I worked in a college area “free” clinic that dealt with these issues the morning or weekend after a party.
If you see him on campus, he will ignore you; if you go up to him, he will say he can’t remember because he was drunk.
Seriously?<br>
What would you tell your parents if you were pregnant? You would deliver a May baby.<br>
Please go get some education from your health center and stop thinking about guys who are hot, and focus on your studies, or you’ll soon have a future in a low paying job within a year with a baby on the way.</p>
<p>@aunt bea Sure maybe this site wasn’t the best place to bring up this question, but just because the OP had sex does not mean she will get pregnant. No where in her post does it say they DIDN’T use protection. The guy may be responsible and keep condoms in his room. The OP may be on birth control. You can’t just assume that sex automatically = pregnancy. Granted, I can’t just assume that they had protected sex either, but I’d like to give this girl the benefit of the doubt before jumping down her throat. </p>
<p>@stacks13 I don’t see why we’d give her the benefit of the doubt about safe sex when she’s obviously proven incapable of making smart decisions about sex period. She was drunk, and slept with a guy she barely knew, and is now trying to convince herself that he really cares for her. She was legally incapable of giving consent, and for all we know, is just telling herself that that’s what she wanted to do, because she can’t face the idea of doing that by accident so early in her school career. Good luck OP, please talk to a professional, as you seem to need this relationship, and your dependency isn’t healthy.</p>
<p>“but both of our phones were dead so we couldn’t exchange numbers before I had to leave.”</p>
<p>Do people not know how to use pens anymore? </p>
<p>Really though…if you’re just looking for a sex buddy, there’s nothing wrong with that. There’s a good chance this sex is all he’s looking for. There’s also a chance that it could turn into a relationship. There are a lot of variables at play here. </p>
<p>Saying that he’s really attracted to you and wants your number isn’t really a meaningful statement. Even if he only wants sex, that is still an honest statement. It could also have meant that he found you attractive, intelligent, and full of personality, and wanted to see you again to get to know you better. </p>
<p>@stacks, people in OP’s situation came to our clinic to try to “undo” what had happened the night before. I saw it so often, that’s why I presumed the worst case scenario with this freshman because I saw it OFTEN. Now that I’m a Mom, and have heard from 2 of my dd’s that this continues to happen, I posted what I did because this girl needs a wake-up call. He’s not going to “love” her, which is what she wants, he’s going to have his booty call. If that’s what she’s after, that’s what she’ll get.</p>
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Sure, because who’s more attractive and intelligent and has more personality than a drunk freshman ready to go to bed with someone she just met? A keeper for sure!</p>
<p>OP, if you think you were anything more than a warm place to put it, you’re terribly mistaken.</p>
<p>Why is it that when a guy says something during a drunken one night stand, anyone wonders what was really on his mind?</p>
<p>I think his behavior was evidence of what was on his mind. </p>
<p>However, I am not here to shame the OP. Whatever happened is over. I am concerned that somehow getting a hot senior into bed is part of her self worth. OP, don’t base your self worth on some drunken guy. You don’t need him to tell you you are attractive and intelligent- you can know that you are. Take care of yourself and focus on what you went to college for- to achieve your goals. Build your self worth from within and let this guy move on.</p>
<p>“Sure, because who’s more attractive and intelligent and has more personality than a drunk freshman ready to go to bed with someone she just met? A keeper for sure!”</p>
<p>I’m guessing that the situation did not transpire along the lines of “Hi, my name is _________. Let’s go have sex.”</p>
<p>I’m assuming they probably talked for a while before having sex. I’m not suggesting that he -did- find her attractive for her intelligence or personality, I was simply expressing the fact that such a statement could be interpreted in a range of different ways. </p>
<p>Go on a real date with him and get to know him, you may find that when sober, you arent attracted emotionally. Rule out the possibility of hooking up and get him to take you to dinner or something fun like that.</p>