<p>Sell tickets.</p>
<p>But seriously - I absolutely such behaviour crosses a line. Whatever people want to do in private is their business - but when the room mate is in the room - total disrespect to everyone.</p>
<p>OK: So people keep recommending setting up a set of rules when you first move in with your roommate (no sex while I'm in the room, no random guys aka one night stands, spending the night, ect)-- is that too much of a ***** move, or is it a good idea?</p>
<p>no, it's a good idea. setting up boundaries from the beginning so you don't have problems later is always a good idea, not just for the sex topic but other things too (you make the dishes dirty, you wash them; if you eat/drink something, you replace it; etc). This is pretty much the only way you can make living with basically a stranger work.</p>
<p>My roommate and I bunked our beds sophomore year. I had the lower bunk, she... and occasionally her boyfriend... had the upper bunk.</p>
<p>It'd be rustle-rustle, giggle-giggle, rustle-rustle, giggle-giggle... and I'd tell 'em to cut it out. One evening after much rustling and giggling, his BOXERS FELL ON MY HEAD. I stood up, flinged his boxers back up to the top bunk, saying, "I believe these are yours. I'm going over to my bf's."</p>
<p>Aaaand that was pretty much where I stayed until graduation!
Roomie and her boyfriend broke up eventually, roomie and I are incredibly good friends still, and she was a bridesmaid in my wedding to my bf whose apartment I was sexiled to. =)</p>
<p>Setting up rules is more than a good idea, it's something you NEED to do. Some things you may assume are common sense (no watching tv at 4am) others may not.</p>
<p>"This is pretty much the only way you can make living with basically a stranger work."</p>
<p>Even if you'll be rooming with a friend, you should set up rules. People grow up living under different rules, and what one person thinks is fine may be unacceptable to another.</p>
<p>The many joys of having a single dorm room. ;) </p>
<p>I'm sure if you stare at them long enough, they'll leave the room.
If not, you should start moaning along with them. Creep them out a bit.</p>
<p>^^ hilarious!!</p>
<p>My daughter would freak if her roommate allowed a boyfriend to sleep over while she was there. This is why I hate the whole idea of random roommates. Moral standards are so very different, and neither party's going to be comfortable. </p>
<p>zebes</p>
<p>Most schools send out a roommate-match form that ask how you feel about a bunch of different situations. I actually had to do a similar one to freshman year when I moved into school owned housing at my grad school.</p>
<p>If I had asked my roommate politely and privately to stop and they still did it, I would tell my RA and move out. I would also stop being nice to the roomie and the SO. It's an issue of respect in my opinion, and I wouldn't live with it. I'd probably be extremely ****ed off, actually.</p>
<p>seriously, just ask them to at least let you join in.</p>
<p>"I'm sure if you stare at them long enough, they'll leave the room.
If not, you should start moaning along with them. Creep them out a bit."</p>
<p>That reminded me of the time when my friend had a girl over and started doin stuff with her...only to notice that his roommate was staring at them. It eventually got to Davy moaning and they eventually left.</p>
<p>Oh yeah, we will get you in hockey next year, you wait.</p>
<p>If it's really a problem for you then get a single or room in a sub-free dorm.</p>
<p>I really think that crazy, wild sex while the roommate is there would be pretty abnormal. But, just have a conversation with your roomie in case something comes up. Determine a system--rubber band, special magnet or some sort of other sign to alert your roommate to the situation.
Boyfriends and girlfriends will sleep over; but, usually you can work out something where you leave for like an hour, go to the study room or a friend's room and then come back. You should have each other's cell phone #s for texting. </p>
<p>If you go to a school where it's like permanent spring break, try earplugs and eyemasks! ;)</p>
<p>I unfortunately am experiencing the same problem as the OP, except my roommate is a gay dude. It blows. *no pun intended.</p>
<p>My advice is to meet a girl and bring her back to the room and give your roommate a taste of his own medicine.. tell her to be really loud!! See how he likes it lol</p>
<p>Why stop at one? Bring four. I'm sure your friends can spot you the benjy's.</p>
<p>As a parent, I appreciate the input and perspectives of the younger generation. Personally, I don't care what people do, or with whom, as long as they don't do it in the street and scare the horses (or in their dorm rooms, and embarrass and infuriate their roommates). Some of the other feedback I've gotten about this issue is that once the pattern of indiscreet displays of affection begins, it usually escalates, until the offending couple is having sex in front of the roommate. So your suggestions to speak up sooner rather than later, to set limits, and nip it in the bud, are very good. (This can be even more problematic for people who live in apartments, and can't even escape to a lounge, complain to an RA, or just move out.) I don't apologize for the fact that I consider people who have sexual intercourse in public or in front of other people exhibitionists; they should not assume, unless they are performing in a live sex show, that their audience are voyeurs. I would counsel that when you want to be intimate with your partner, show respect for yourself, for your partner and for others, and be discreet. Old-fashioned as it may sound, sex is still special--you can help keep it special by keeping it private. Perhaps RAs need to include this issue in a list of issues students can discuss when they first move into the dorm--it's not necessarily something a freshman would expect to happen to them when they go to college. It's better to discuss the issue in advance, rather than walk in on a couple in flagrante.</p>