<p>Even parents can understand that students will be intimate with each other once they are at college. However, it seems that it is not so unusual for students to actually subject their roommates, not just to sexiling (exiling the roommate from their dorm room so they can have sex), but to actual fondling and fornicating while the roommate is in the room. Am wondering if students have some suggestions for the students who are being subjected, against their will, to this. Do the fornicators actually think their roommates can sleep through this scenario?</p>
<p>Carry a video camera around in the room? At the very least you can make a few bucks if they won't stop.</p>
<p>That's when you have to make rules that there will be no sex in the room while the roommate is there. I don't care if you do it, on your own bed, while I'm not around, but either let me know ahead of time, or I'm coming in and interrupting you. This was especially true for me bc my roommate's boyfriend lived off-campus. Just go there for pete's sake! I didn't feel bad about interrupting them for that.</p>
<p>You have to have the guts to speak up and tell them that such behavior isn't acceptable. Set rules such as no sex or having partners sleep over while roommates are in the room.</p>
<p>Some people are so drunk or crude that unless you spell out to them that their behavior is unacceptable, they'll keep doing the do with you in the room even if you're videotaping them.</p>
<p>Speaking from experience. This kind of stuff happened even back in the old days.</p>
<p>No one in my dorm seems to care. My best friend's roommate bones her boyfriend even when she is three feet away in her own bed and another girl has loud sex while her roommate is sitting in the room. Another friend woke up to find her roommate's boyfriend of a week sprawled out naked 3 feet away from her. It's very common and needs to be discussed before getting too settled if you'd be uncomfortable.</p>
<p>And why wouldn't EVERYBODY be uncomfortable. As an old geezer mom, I admit that I am shocked. Are there no boundaries anywhere anymore? Do we have to tell people that we don't want to watch or listen to them having sex?</p>
<p>Gladmom,
Crude, drunken students did that kind of behavior even back in our day.</p>
<p>I couldn't do that. I've too much respect, both for my girlfriend and my roommate. In fact, I think I'd lose a little respect for my girlfriend if she wanted to do that with someone in the room.</p>
<p>Northstarmom: I guess I'm a bit older than you. In my day, dorms were single sex and boys weren't allowed in the rooms. When people wanted to have sex, they found somewhere else. </p>
<p>I like lots of the new ways, but, I can't understand how anyone could think that having sex in front of another person without his/her permission is okay. I hope that students bothered by it will do whatever it takes to not have to watch or hear it - starting by talking to the offending roommate. If you get no relief there, you should take it to whatever the next level of roommate conflicts is and keep going until it is stopped.</p>
<p>Well, it's only bad when the girl thinks she's a pornstar imho... but I never had any problems with this sort of thing. Tell them to stop, if they don't, then you may have to do something more drastic.</p>
<p>OP, the answer is to paint an enormous scarlet "F" on your roommate's clothes and then put her in the stocks. somebody has to show these fornicators what's what.</p>
<p>edit: but seriously, i have what you could call a "casual" moral sense and even i would be offended by people getting it on in front of me. there's nothing more pathetic than a college girl with no dignity.</p>
<p>Shine a really, really bright light on them. They might even thank you for the tan later on.</p>
<p>leave the room and leave the door open since attention seems to be what they crave. :D</p>
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there's nothing more pathetic than a college girl with no dignity.
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No, a college boy with no dignity is just as pathetic.</p>
<p>My friend in college this year, freshman, said she practically slept in the common and library because of this exact problem with the roommate situation.
I am sure no freshman wants to spend their first year like that. I am kinda freaked out after listening to her story.</p>
<p>Play some of the least sexy music you can think of. Weird Al, maybe.</p>
<p>If your roommate is 8 feet across in another bed, a late waker (11am or later), and it's 7 am, a little touchy feely never hurt anyone. As long as it's quiet and he's laying towards the wall, fair game.</p>
<p>you should join in :P</p>
<p>"I couldn't do that. I've too much respect, both for my girlfriend and my roommate. In fact, I think I'd lose a little respect for my girlfriend if she wanted to do that with someone in the room."
-wholeheartedly agreed jaso9n2</p>
<p>KindlyCuddly, what school do you attend?</p>