<p>She came over Sunday and we had a much needed talk, she wanted to go to a college closer to home on the east coast, we're having a tuff time finding a community college that has Business Finance transfer classes and dorms. She was looking at North Carolina im willing to go on a hunt for another school but the boyfriend has to stay away and except she has to do whats best for her and her future.</p>
<p>She did agree he was pressuring her about going away for school, I told her that if your going along with it because of the fear of being there alone and the fear of failing that a part of growing up is to face your fears and that I would be worried if she wasnt alittle fearful.</p>
<p>We're moving slowly but I think we have gotten things under control, she came home yesterday and I could tell she was happy to be back, we made a special dinner and had a good time, even her older sister was here. </p>
<p>Im not without understanding about her boyfriend and how they feel for each other I said to her that if your truly ment for one another then go to school on your own give yourself the space and the time you need to settle in at school seeing that you dont need anyone to hold your hand and you are a strong young women and if you find that your feelings for Bret are still strong then you will know that hes what you want, and I can respect that.
She was in agreement and it took alot of pressure off her to see we didnt just want to brake them up , that it was in the way they were doing it.</p>
<p>To comment on the last post from my first thread , im still not sure what a troll is but I did need someone to talk to I was very eager to talk but it was to you and not to whom I should have been talking to, But a word to the wise when people write on a discussion board about something like this think about how desperate they might be feeling and how your responces can help or just anger someone I already felt beat up emotionally alot of the replys didnt help that any but thank you to the ones that did ;)</p>
<p>Glad your daughter is making progress on doing what is right for her, whatever that may be.</p>
<p>Being that we are a parent discussion board on a site frequented by kids, it is not uncommon for us to get a kid posting on the Parents Forum pretending to be a parent. These kids will make up a story, trying to push our parental buttons. These posters are called trolls. Sometimes, we parents (always trusting and willing to help, as we are) will get quite far along in the discussion before realizing that someone has pranked us.</p>
<p>I don't know what it was about your previous thread that made some feel that you might be a hoaxster. Since you aren't one, please forgive them. Once (well, more than once) burned, twice shy.</p>
<p>For perspective, my kids are now grown, in their 20's, working and independent. How we dealt with all the college stressors turned into a pretty good template for how we've dealt with the other conflicts that have come up. So it's good to take the long view on these issues- ultimately, how you interact with your D when you disagree is more important than which college she ends up in.</p>
<p>I'm sure you will all find a meeting of the minds.</p>
<p>jolee- my Dd is a senior, she and her BF attend schools 1500 miles apart. We always supported them, but it was financially impossible for them to go to the same schools. They are still together and in retrospect happy NOT to be one of those 'joined at the hip' couples. They have each made friends and done healthy social things, yet still been an amazing support for each other. You can have your cake and eat it, too, if you are flexible about how it works</p>
<p>All three of my sisters, my two college roommates, and I all left our boyfriends on their own in another part of the state or the country for 6 to 18 months before those boyfriends figured out (and in all honesty before we figured out) that we really should get married to each other. I call it the "Distance Theory of Engagements". As you put it so well, if she and her boyfriend really are in it for the long term, being separated will help them realize that. If they aren't, then being separated and having a chance to get on with the rest of their lives is a good thing.</p>
<p>As to the community college situation: she needs to find a place where she can do the first two years of a pre-finance, or pre-business type program. She doesn't have to look for the specific major yet, just something that will let her transfer into the upper level program that she wants. You may want to start by finding the places where she can finish her degree. If you know what the overall program for that degree requires, you can figure out what courses she can take somewhere else.</p>
<p>Have you seen the list of public community colleges by state? I'll post the link here: U.S</a>. Community Colleges, by State
It's not a searchable database, but it will connect you directly with each school's website.</p>
<p>jolee, As far as I know, there are no community colleges in NC with dorms. CC students who are not from the area live in apts. The areas around the big state u's have many apt. complexes populated by a mixture of university students and CC students.</p>