Hi, I am a current community college student and I’m looking for schools to transfer to (I still haven’t decided yet if I will transfer this following year or finish up two years and CC). My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while (almost half a year). As I am looking at schools to apply to, his own university comes up. When I had applied to schools last year, his school was not on my list. However, as I have changed majors since then, there’s actually a program there I am pretty interested in, plus the benefit of having my boyfriend there. I know if I were to choose this school, people would claim that I went there because of my boyfriend. I won’t lie, him being there is a big part of why I want to go there, but it doesn’t change the fact its a good school and a good program. Should I let my relationship sway me into applying to his school?
On another note, I recently changed majors, so if anyone knows of good graphic design or just design programs in CA let me know lol
If your BF’s school fits your academic purpose as well, then you are very lucky. I don’t see why you can’t go there as long as you will benefit from the program. However at the same time, breaking up isn’t any less common in college as well, so consider such possibility
In a word, NO! If your really like the school and it has your major, I wouldn’t cross it off just because your boyfriend is there. But don’t let that be the reason you choose a school. I went to the same college as my then boyfriend - we had been dating about a year. We were broken up after a semester or two. Luckily, I still loved the school and ended up meeting my husband there after all! But I would have been really disappointed if I had picked it solely to be with my boyfriend. If it’s meant to be, your relationship will last wherever you go to school.
In a word, YES. We do all kinds of things in pursuit of our love interest. If you can get it to be a win-win, which you think you can, then go for it. If it turns out to be a mistake, it turns out to be a mistake. So what. It won’t be your last. Take calculated risks in life. You’ve calculated.
Almost half a year = a few months = not very long at all for an adult relationship.
So, to answer your question, no. This relationship hasn’t been going on long enough to be a factor in a major life decision.
Pick a school without reference to where your boyfriend is.
Ok, if you’re into two schools you like equally that have roughly similar costs, you can consider your boyfriend as a tie breaker.
I second what @millie210 said.