Should we get involved once our child has made their "decision"....

<p>Don't worry that the schools are OOS, especially if he will benefit from them. The reason one has the best chance in one's own state (regardless of where one goes for college) for medical school is funding- the public ones favor instate students (not only do they use taxpyers' money but want their grads to have an affinity for the state so they are likely to practice medicine there) but even private schools may get state funds and be required to have a certain percentage of instate students. If his chosen schools are comparable to the state flagship school in academic rankings he will have at least equal footing. He will have advantages in life, as well.</p>

<p>Another consideration for you and your son- most starting college premeds do not go to medical school. For some it is because they change their minds once they have been exposed to all the different possibilities colleges offer or don't do as well as they would like to be competitive, and others won't get admitted since there are more students interested than spaces available. Premed is an intention, not a major. Do not be surprised if your son discovers other fields he would rather spend his life engaged in. Therefore the aim should be for him to go to the college he feels best about. If he continues to desire being a physician, fine; if he changes his mind, that is good also.</p>

<p>Don't worry too much about this being a major decision. At our ages when you look back you realize how many different branch points there were in how you got to where you are today. You can try to predict all of the "what ifs" outcomes, you would come up with as many bad as good ones. Relax and enjoy seeing how his life unfolds.</p>

<p>Thank you! He is traveling to the other hopeful school early tomorrow morning. I will wait to hear his evaluation and see if he still feels the same way about his original decision. If his career choice should change along the way, I feel certain it will be for the best and he will go on to do great things whatever he chooses.</p>