<p>Ah yeah that is true, I myself go for free food whenever I can now haha.</p>
<p>I have a similar problem…my roommate is painfully shy to the point where it’s just awkward to be around him because he doesn’t talk. If I try to make conversation, he’ll give short answers and then drop back into silence. We even have a class together and we’ll walk to it in silence and usually he’ll even walk three or four feet behind me…and even if we were to pass each other in the hall he probably wouldn’t even acknowledge me. It’s just kinda awkward because at the beginning of the year we kinda hung out together because neither of us knew a lot of people but I’ve become a lot more social lately and he’s just gotten quieter and quieter. I used to try and include him but we just had nothing to talk about and he’s too shy to talk in the first place. /ramble</p>
<p>I just feel bad because he’s in the room all the time and hasn’t made any friends here (he’s from out of state and I’m not) and I’m always out either just in our floor lounge with our neighbors or out hanging with other people. Idk it’s just awkward and I’m not sure if I should even make an effort anymroe.</p>
<p>If they are friends it would be appropriate to invite her out with her sometimes, but she doesn’t always have to. They are under no obligation to be more than civil together if they do not want to be friends, but that doesn’t sound like that’s the case?</p>
<p>That said, if she doesn’t want to go, your D needs to go out anyway. There’s no reason she should have to stay home with roomie, they see each other PLENTY.</p>
<p>As long as we’re trading stories, my roommate INSISTS that we are best friends yet never, ever invites me anywhere, even though at the beginning of the school year I had started becoming friends with some of her friends. Now the only time I see them is if they happen to be here and invite me out. I invited her out a handful of times last semester and twice already this semester and she always either declines or blows me off, I went out to dinner with her the first day of classes Fall semester and that was the last time I’ve seen her outside the dorm. And we both are rarely home and she goes home every weekend, so we don’t even see much of each other. But she still is adamant that I am one of her nearest and dearest friends, and I have ended up staying up all night playing therapist for her on more than one occasion, and helping her with her homework, etc and so forth because IN THE ROOM it does feel like we’re friends. I don’t know what this girl’s problem is. I feel pretty used. You can’t be best friends inside your room and then pretend the other doesn’t exist as soon as you leave. Two faced snob. :(</p>
<p>TwistedxKiss, your roommate is not your friend. She is using you. Don’t stay up listening to her problems. Tell her to go to the counseling center. Someone who really is your friend does social things with you; They don’t just dump their problems in your lap. It’s also perfectly fine to tell her straight out that you don’t feel very close to her because the only time she does anything with you is when she bends your ear with her troubles; She doesn’t do any social things with you. Fine to call her on her behavior. She’s the one being rude, not you.</p>