<p>Everyday, my grades get worse, I don't have any awards, barely any friends, always being nice to everyone, always hearing about the straight A kid not getting into their dream school, no talants, I feel worthless and depressed. The only friends I have is CC. I cry internally, never conveying my true emotions to anyone. In addition, girls don't really like me, since I have a shy, pessimistic personality and I usually get into arguements since people in my school stereotype me and think i am nerd and know the answer to every math question, and have no friends. ( I am asian )
dammit, why is my life so ***** I think I am the only asian in my school that sucks in everything, dammit, now i am just making myself cry. ...... help please</p>
<p>Alright, heed these words.
Try to find a passion that will get your mind off these things. The more you stress out about it, the worse your performance will be(as in my case). You need something to focus and concentrate on. This focus will overlap into your school life, helping you to concentrate better indirectly. Grades are ONE way to become successful, but really it's up to you. I know some people that just aren't motivated at school, and why should they be? They excel at entrepreneurial ship and make beaucoups of money on the internet. Besides, I know people that have aspirations of becoming a doctor or lawyer, but would they truly enjoy it?</p>
<p>I'm unmotivated at school. I made a 95 on my last test in AP Chem, but I just made a 71. I go through spurts of depression and motivation. Sometimes, I'll be motivated, other times I just don't have the will, and I see it as a chore.</p>
<p>Trust me, find a hobby or passion to get your mind off things. The more I think about school, the more of a heartache appears.</p>
<p>Chill. You say you are introverted and pessimistic. You also say that this has caused people to dissociate with you. You have your cause and your problem. Remove the cause (be more outgoing and optimistic) and your problem will disappear. Convey some damn emotion! One of the main reasons that we Asians are construed as math nerds is that we simply act like robots. Put some mojo in your step. Watch some stand-up comedy (humor is the most sure-fire way to make friends, in my opinion). Be absurd, but not necessarily crazy.</p>
<p>"Why didn't you go to the dance on Friday?"
"Well, my uncle Doc wanted me to test-drive this Delorean he got, and I guess time just flew by."</p>
<p>Emphasis and timing are key.</p>
<p>Grades. Screw them. Learn first. The grades will come naturally. If they don't, then just study the material from the book and do 10 problems from each part of the sections that will be tested the night before. Guaranteed to improve your grade. I will say that I am not a straight A student (sprinkling of Bs is good for perspective and character, I say =P), but that's a motivation issue more than anything (whoops). </p>
<p>CC should not be your friend--it is a guidance counselor, online. Friends will be there for you, physically, when you need help. We can only console you through the magic of the internet. Get up, look in the mirror, accept yourself, and move on. There are people to chill with, damn it.</p>
<p>Join cross-country/track. The endorphins (sp?) will make you happier, and you'll meet loads of friends. Also, the exhaustion will help take your mind of things. ;)</p>
<p>Find some Prozac</p>
<p>It's all right... You just need to find the missing piece that will make you whole. (whether its a passion, a gal, or a new friend) </p>
<p>I liked Shel Silverstein's book. "The Missing Piece" You should read it too. It's available in just about any bookstore or library. </p>
<p>"It was missing a piece.
And it was not happy.
So it set off in search
of its missing piece.
And as it rolled
it sang this song -</p>
<pre><code>Oh I'm lookin' for my missin' piece
I'm lookin' for my missin' piece
Hi-dee-ho, here I go,
Lookin' for my missin' piece."
</code></pre>
<p>Funny too...</p>
<p>SDMS, As a parent I am really concerned for you. If you feel you can communicate these thoughts you are having to your parents or a trusted teacher, you should talk to them. This phase of your life will pass. High school is often isolating because the kids are so wrapped up in themselves. They do not dislike you, they just can't see past their own emotional lives. When you graduate and meet people from different backgrounds, you will be amazed at how those things that seemed so important will fade. For right now, though, you need someone to listen to you and help you to sort it all out. All the suggestions people have made are things they believe can help you build your confidence and feel better. Take care.</p>
<p>Life will be a lot better in college when you're given another chance to make new friends. Just wait for then, and be really outgoing the first two weeks of college.</p>
<p>As for now, I recommend finding something fun to do, like go ascend in NetHack[/url</a>], or wank off a bit. Or take a nap (you invariably feel better in the morning), or watch a movie, or work on some [url=<a href="http://artofproblemsolving.com/Wiki/index.php/AIME_Problems_and_Solutions%5Dhigh-quality">http://artofproblemsolving.com/Wiki/index.php/AIME_Problems_and_Solutions]high-quality</a> math problems...Just do something</a> fun, and it'll brainwash you into thinking Everything Is OK.</p>
<p>somebody's in a comic mood today...</p>
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or wank off a bit
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<p>Lol, I'm not sure if I understood this bit. :P</p>
<p>^go to urbandictionary.com to find out</p>
<p>I know what I think it means (same thing you do), but I'm not sure if that's what she meant. :P</p>
<p>Unless fizix is as blunt as to say, "Go choke the chicken, it'll do some good for you."</p>
<p>^well, why would it not be what she means?</p>
<p>Don't choke the rubber chicken if you're not wearing gloves.
You may end up stoned, and that'd be a hard dilemma.
[/bad-nethack-punnery]</p>
<p>;)</p>